Bessel van der Kolk Quotes
While reliving trauma is dramatic, frightening, and potentially self-destructive, over time a lack of presence can be even more damaging. This is a particular problem with traumatized children. The acting-out kids tend to get attention; the blanked-out ones don’t bother anybody and are left to lose their future bit by bit.
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Telling people not to have children is unthinkable and inhumane.
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There was a strange atmosphere on the set because we were filming in this large house, which was used for troubled children. You'd go in and find walls had been burnt down. The building was charged with this history and it stayed with us throughout the filming.
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You know, children philosophize more than adults - and they are critical of adults.
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Real luxury is having the time to read endless stories in bed with my children. And I get that all the time. I'm so blessed.
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I think you live a fuller life with someone else, you know, you're firing on all cylinders. It can be a nightmare at times, we all know that, but nevertheless in the end I think to have someone else's input on anything - a book, a meal, your children, life, a walk - is fantastic.
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In Montreal, I kept thinking, 'Pay attention: this is the Olympics! It only happens once every four years!'
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It's a notion that career-oriented women often neglect their families. But we should cut them some flak; these women are doing everything for the sake of family so that it progresses. I believe when kids see their mothers working hard, they take up responsibilities at home and are far more well-turned out than other children.
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If I couldn't see the colors, now that would be a problem.
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I didn't have children, but I never wanted children.
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I have spent my life paying attention to my art form, developing my art form, worrying about my show and what I'm bringing to people, making sure that I give them a fine trade.
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Once I have children, the kids come first. One thing at a time for me.
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One in four children being victimized? That's about seven children in every classroom. That's a significant proportion of the population.
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If a person wants to enjoy attention, he will create situations to get it.
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Children are all foreigners.
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I have this dog named Marley, and it is a kind of love I had never known. I have a hard time believing Marley did not come from my body. I know that sounds insane, but I feel that connected to her. She made me realize I wanted to adopt children.
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The United States is no longer first in the world in upward mobility. We can reverse that trend by giving our young children an equal start in life as they begin their journey to fulfill the American Dream.
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I hope to see an integrated solution created to deal with both the local pollution problem and the global climate change problem.
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Children do not give up their innate imagination, curiosity, dreaminess easily. You have to love them to get them to do that.
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Failure seldom stops you. What stops you is the fear of failure.
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Once a disease has entered the body, all parts which are healthy must fight it: not one alone, but all. Because a disease might mean their common death. Nature knows this; and Nature attacks the disease with whatever help she can muster.
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If you think you know it all, you are missing something.
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While reliving trauma is dramatic, frightening, and potentially self-destructive, over time a lack of presence can be even more damaging. This is a particular problem with traumatized children. The acting-out kids tend to get attention; the blanked-out ones don’t bother anybody and are left to lose their future bit by bit.
