Bessel van der Kolk Quotes
Social support is not the same as merely being in the presence of others. The critical issue is reciprocity: being truly heard and seen by the people around us, feeling that we are held in someone else’s mind and heart. For our physiology to calm down, heal, and grow we need a visceral feeling of safety. No doctor can write a prescription for friendship and love: These are complex and hard-earned capacities. You don’t need a history of trauma to feel self-conscious and even panicked at a party with strangers—but trauma can turn the whole world into a gathering of aliens.
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I believe the collapse of the House of Windsor is tied in with the collapse of the Church of England.
A. N. Wilson
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I went down to Venezuela and ended up renting a helicopter and flew with my sons to the tops of the tepuis, these freestanding jungle mesas, 'lost worlds' as it were. In fact, it's almost impossible to access them without one. So we were able to land and spend some time there. We were trapped for about six hours by clouds that came in.
Harrison Ford
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I'm a T-shirt-and-jeans-with-combat-boots guy. And if I don't have to shave, I don't.
Gabriel Macht
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The one serious conviction that a man should have is that nothing is to be taken too seriously.
Samuel Butler
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During my 8 years as chairman, I had the privilege to peer into the future to see dynamic citizen astronauts returning to and from the heavens which we can expect in the future.
Dana Rohrabacher
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MusiCares was really good to me. I can't say enough how MusiCares helps other people. They really, really helped me. They have the greatest groups and support for musicians in recovery.
Carlene Carter
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It is a waste of money to help those who show no desire to help themselves.
Taylor Caldwell
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In every generation, there are quite firm rules on how to behave when you are crazy.
Ian Hacking
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There's no denying it: I was a crappy baby who failed his way into this world, and I've been making the best of it ever since.
Zach Anner
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People sometimes say it takes a long time to become a jazz fan, but for me it took about five seconds.
Pat Metheny
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Vanity is the healthiest thing in life.
Karl Lagerfeld
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Washington, D.C., has a much greater risk than Manchester, N.H. They both need some level of funding, but they ought not to be done per capita. Congress is to blame for some of this.
Warren Rudman
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You have to invest the money in a certain thing, because, you know, at 40, I want to enjoy my life. So I do a lot of investments. Apartments back in Russia and New York. It's a good thing to do.
Irina Shayk
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Liberation is not deliverance.
Victor Hugo
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From what we've heard about George W., he has a lot issues that he wants to run on. They're positive. They're good. He thinks he's got a good vision for America.
Barbara Olson
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Not all Muslims wish to express themselves in public through a communal religious identity. Identities are multiple, and some may wish to speak instead just as citizens in their professional capacity, through their political party, or their neighborhood body.
Maajid Nawaz
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Scrawling 'I'm gay' in lipstick on your parents' bedroom mirror may demonstrate a personal signature of the highest style, but is not particularly sensitive to their feelings. Upon hearing me utter those words almost twenty years ago, my own mother did what and self-respecting middle-class mom would do: went directly into a seizure.
Lance Loud
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I knew that I wanted to be an actor. Then it became about whether acting wanted me. So, I gave it a shot. It hasn't worked out too bad, so far.
Laura San Giacomo
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How could I pretend to be a victim when I was so willing to sin?
Emily M. Danforth
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After Notre Dame, what is there?
Ara Parseghian
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I do not support a constitutional amendment to prohibit gay marriage.
Corrine Brown
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The main thing for me is to make sure our home is peaceful, that it's healthy, that the kids are good.
Camila Alves
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The use of large-scale military force in volatile regions of underdeveloped countries is difficult to do right, has major unintended consequences and rarely turns out to be quick, effective, controlled and short lived.
Dennis C. Blair
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Social support is not the same as merely being in the presence of others. The critical issue is reciprocity: being truly heard and seen by the people around us, feeling that we are held in someone else’s mind and heart. For our physiology to calm down, heal, and grow we need a visceral feeling of safety. No doctor can write a prescription for friendship and love: These are complex and hard-earned capacities. You don’t need a history of trauma to feel self-conscious and even panicked at a party with strangers—but trauma can turn the whole world into a gathering of aliens.
Bessel van der Kolk