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I come from a part of Nigeria where a lot of value is placed on implicit communication. The 'well brought up' child is the one who can pick up nonverbal cues from adults and interpret them correctly.
Ayobami Adebayo -
Never lend people money you can't afford to give them as a gift.
Ayobami Adebayo
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I wanted to write about extended family systems. You have people you can fall back on, and it's good. But what if you don't fit into what is expected of you?
Ayobami Adebayo -
I think there is a dissonance between how much is expected of you as a young person, whether you are a man or a woman: you are supposed to go to university; you get a master's degree, maybe two, particularly if you come from the middle class.
Ayobami Adebayo -
I am interested in the idea that people should be able to define their own happiness.
Ayobami Adebayo -
I have always been very interested in the idea of loneliness and the presumption that romantic relationships are supposed to rid you of that.
Ayobami Adebayo -
I used to think that most published writers, the ones I admired, had a muse, or a special connection to the universe, to nature, or to aliens - something inaccessible to me that caused their prose to flow onto the page, already perfect.
Ayobami Adebayo -
To be transported into another world is my very favourite part of reading.
Ayobami Adebayo
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I think a large part of being human centers on the state of being alone, and we try to mitigate that in so many ways.
Ayobami Adebayo -
There is a strong view in Nigeria, as in many other cultures, that a marriage is not complete without children. I don’t agree; I’m wary of the idea that people have to have some particular functionality in order to be full members of society. I think it’s a very dangerous idea. Humans are humans and they are worthy of respect…
Ayobami Adebayo