Bessel van der Kolk Quotes
Karlen and her colleagues had expected that hostile/intrusive behavior on the part of the mothers would be the most powerful predictor of mental instability in their adult children, but they discovered otherwise. Emotional withdrawal had the most profound and long-lasting impact. Emotional distance and role reversal (in which mothers expected the kids to look after them) were specifically linked to aggressive behavior against self and others in the young adults.
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If I hadn't spent many years trying to be as compassionate as Mother Teresa, as positive a thinker as W. Clement Stone, as prolific a writer as Stephen King, and as good a speaker as many of the legends I have studied, I would not be as successful as I am today.
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Having a baby had always seemed the easiest and most natural thing to do, and I had never felt - even in my most furtive days of coming out - that being gay would mean I could not become a mother.
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The speed limit on most of Maui's highways is forty miles per hour, but my mother never went above thirty.
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I am not sad, but I am melancholic. When you lose your mother at 20 and then your father soon after, melancholia is part of your life.
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When I first visited the Hospice in Milton, I had a pre-conceived idea as to what to expect. Far from being a clinical, depressing place for sick children, it was a home. Most importantly, it was a family home, a happy place of stability, support and care. It was a place of fun.
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I do have the most marvelous husband, children, and grandchildren.
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As philanthropists, the most powerful legacy we can create is one that keeps on giving - through our children.
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My live show is almost like a meditation. An emotional apex - that's what I want it to feel like.
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My mother was physically and emotionally abusive. My father was an extremely cold man.
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Getting emotional about things is a peacetime luxury. In wartime, it's much too painful.
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The ideal of behaviorism is to eliminate coercion: to apply controls by changing the environment in such a way as to reinforce the kind of behavior that benefits everyone.
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I started off wanting one husband and seven children, but it ended up the other way around.
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I grew up as the only child, and we did not have a large family. So for me and my mother, our friends tend to become our family.
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I make the best eggplant parmigiana. Except maybe my mother. The way she makes it is delicious. If I told you how, I'd have to kill you.
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For support, I fall back on my heart. Has a man any fault a woman cannot weave with and try to change into something better, if the god her man prays to is a mother holding a baby?
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Perhaps we cannot prevent this world from being a world in which children are tortured. But we can reduce the number of tortured children. And if you don’t help us, who else in the world can help us do this?
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When I'm done my mixed martial arts career, the only people who are gonna remember me and respect what I did and how I lived my life are my two children. That's my legacy, ladies and gentlemen.
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I most want to be remembered for being as great a mother to James and Lennon as my mum was to me and my brother Jamie.
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Education is supposed to be our great equalizer, but when only half of low-income students are enrolling in college and only three tenths are graduating, you have to figure some of our children are getting a greater equalizer than others.
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Surrender your expectations. Surrender your doubts. Surrender your fears. Surrender your strengths. Surrender your anger. Surrender your control.
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I'm from Chicago and it's a huge influence on me.
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Let's not pretend that all of a sudden, this is some new system.
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The politician has no more use for pride than Falstaff had for honour.
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Karlen and her colleagues had expected that hostile/intrusive behavior on the part of the mothers would be the most powerful predictor of mental instability in their adult children, but they discovered otherwise. Emotional withdrawal had the most profound and long-lasting impact. Emotional distance and role reversal (in which mothers expected the kids to look after them) were specifically linked to aggressive behavior against self and others in the young adults.
