Bessel van der Kolk Quotes
Trauma, whether it is the result of something done to you or something you yourself have done, almost always makes it difficult to engage in intimate relationships. After you have experienced something so unspeakable, how do you learn to trust yourself or anyone else again? Or, conversely, how can you surrender to an intimate relationship after you have been brutally violated?
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For the past few centuries, we have defined beauty as tall, slender figures, femininity and white skin.
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Guys like Clyde McPhatter used to sing their tail ends off!
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Life is like the ocean, it goes up and down.
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I think the NAACP isn't recognized enough for all of the work it does, especially in the field of law. They may have faded from view over the last couple of decades, but they are fighting the good fight.
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You know, acting is very fascinating. But being an actress is not, because you become so concentrated on yourself.
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I worry about children not having a sense of any direct connection to the past.
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We are expected to believe that anyone who objects to the Department of Homeland Security or the USA Patriot Act is a terrorist, and that the only way to preserve our freedom is to hand it over to the government for safekeeping.
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It was a great time to be born, because I got to have my own publishing company right from the beginning, so I made more money than somebody would have doing what I did ten or fifteen years before.
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Before you are a leader, success is all about growing yourself. When you become a leader, success is all about growing others.
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I'll post a video, and it might get 10,000 comments, and I'll scroll through and they'll all be lovely and nice - but then they'll be one saying, 'I hate you; I'm unsubscribing' and that's the one that sticks out and stays on your mind all day.
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It's an exciting life. I don't know where God is leading us. I just know that He opens doors and He closes the doors, and it is always the best for us.
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When I'm getting to know someone, I look for someone who has passions that I respect, like his career. Someone who loves what he does is really attractive.
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Fortunately, I was still living in Los Angeles at the time. So I went out to World Gym and got a membership.
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I don't have secrets in my life. Everything is out there.
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We played a lot looser offensively, the ball is being distributed better and we are playing unselfishly.
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Worship is giving God the best that He has given you.
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Brotherhood doesn't come in a package. It is not a commodity to be taken down from the shelf with one hand - it is an accomplishment of soul-searching, prayer and perseverance.
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I had to find my way of translating the excitement you get when you're reading comic books to the big screen.
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The single greatest thing you can do to change your life today would be to start being grateful for what you have right now. And the more grateful you are, the more you get.
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One of things I write about a lot is the role of women. An older friend of mine said that she feels like there's always a tension between wanting to be free and wanting to be cherished. I think that's one of the things that my whole book speaks to, wanting to break out of the confines of the roles that are prescribed for women and yet at the same time, not wanting to be totally free. You want to have intimate relationships. It's that bursting out of confinement.
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With acting, I felt like I had a lot to prove because I didn't study it; I didn't work my way up in a traditional sense.
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Trauma, whether it is the result of something done to you or something you yourself have done, almost always makes it difficult to engage in intimate relationships. After you have experienced something so unspeakable, how do you learn to trust yourself or anyone else again? Or, conversely, how can you surrender to an intimate relationship after you have been brutally violated?
