Bessel van der Kolk Quotes

Trauma, whether it is the result of something done to you or something you yourself have done, almost always makes it difficult to engage in intimate relationships. After you have experienced something so unspeakable, how do you learn to trust yourself or anyone else again? Or, conversely, how can you surrender to an intimate relationship after you have been brutally violated?

Bessel van der Kolk

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• Trauma

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• For the past few centuries, we have defined beauty as tall, slender figures, femininity and white skin.

  

  Cameron Russell
  • Past
  • Beauty
  • White

• Guys like Clyde McPhatter used to sing their tail ends off!

  

  Sam Shepard
  • Like
  • Sing
  • Tail

• Life is like the ocean, it goes up and down.

  

  Vanessa Paradis
  • Life
  • Up
  • Ocean

• I think the NAACP isn't recognized enough for all of the work it does, especially in the field of law. They may have faded from view over the last couple of decades, but they are fighting the good fight.

  

  Tayari Jones
  • Good
  • Work
  • May

• I worry about children not having a sense of any direct connection to the past.

  

  Mal Peet
  • Children
  • Past
  • Worry

• We are expected to believe that anyone who objects to the Department of Homeland Security or the USA Patriot Act is a terrorist, and that the only way to preserve our freedom is to hand it over to the government for safekeeping.

  

  L. Neil Smith
  • Believe
  • Freedom
  • Hand

• It was a great time to be born, because I got to have my own publishing company right from the beginning, so I made more money than somebody would have doing what I did ten or fifteen years before.

  

  Jackson Browne
  • Time
  • Great
  • Money

• Before you are a leader, success is all about growing yourself. When you become a leader, success is all about growing others.

  

  Jack Welch
  • Success
  • Growing
  • Yourself

• I'll post a video, and it might get 10,000 comments, and I'll scroll through and they'll all be lovely and nice - but then they'll be one saying, 'I hate you; I'm unsubscribing' and that's the one that sticks out and stays on your mind all day.

  

  Zoe Sugg
  • Mind
  • Hate
  • Nice

• It's an exciting life. I don't know where God is leading us. I just know that He opens doors and He closes the doors, and it is always the best for us.

  

  Barbara Mandrell
  • Life
  • God
  • Best

• We played a lot looser offensively, the ball is being distributed better and we are playing unselfishly.

  

  Joe Davis
  • Game
  • Looser
  • Unselfishly

• Worship is giving God the best that He has given you.

  

  Oswald Chambers
  • God
  • Giving
  • Worship

• Brotherhood doesn't come in a package. It is not a commodity to be taken down from the shelf with one hand - it is an accomplishment of soul-searching, prayer and perseverance.

  

  Oveta Culp Hobby
  • Soul
  • Hand
  • Taken

• I had to find my way of translating the excitement you get when you're reading comic books to the big screen.

  

  Ang Lee
  • Book
  • Reading
  • Excitement

• The single greatest thing you can do to change your life today would be to start being grateful for what you have right now. And the more grateful you are, the more you get.

  

  Oprah Winfrey
  • Life
  • Today
  • Change

• It takes power for the man of God in the pulpit to speak plainly about particular sins before the faces of those who are living in them; and still more power to do it with the rare tactfulness and tenderness of the Galilean preacher.

  

  S. D Gordon
  • God
  • Men
  • Power

• The key ingredient of politics is the idea that all of society's ills can be cured politically. It's like a cookbook where the recipe for everything is to fry it. The fruit cocktail is fried.

  

  P. J. O'Rourke
  • Society

• If your environment is not to your liking, change it!

  

  Napoleon Hill
  • Change
  • Environment
  • Liking

• My compliance without participation began to disorientate him. I thought, as always in those circumstances, that I should pretend a yearning and uncontrolled passion or push him away. But I didn't dare to either one or the other: I was afraid I would throw up, because the result would be earthquake-like waves. I had only to wait.

  

  Elena Ferrante
  • Passion
  • Circumstances
  • Afraid

• I'm not a trained singer at all. I've auditioned on occasion for proper musical theatre-type stuff, but I can't read music, and I wasn't particularly good at it.

  

  Hannah Murray
  • Good
  • Music
  • Theatre

• I'm one of the lucky ones. People get Master's Degree and they say, 'I don't know what I wanted to do,' I knew I always wanted to do. Isn't that nice?

  

  Kaye Ballard
  • People
  • Life
  • Education

• I wrote 'All You Could Ask For' to honor a friend, Heidi Armitage, who left us much too soon in 2009 at the age of 43.

  

  Mike Greenberg
  • Honor
  • Left
  • Heidi

• Trauma, whether it is the result of something done to you or something you yourself have done, almost always makes it difficult to engage in intimate relationships. After you have experienced something so unspeakable, how do you learn to trust yourself or anyone else again? Or, conversely, how can you surrender to an intimate relationship after you have been brutally violated?

  

  Bessel van der Kolk
  • Relationships
  • Result
  • Surrender