Bessel van der Kolk Quotes
Talking about painful events doesn’t necessarily establish community – often quite the contrary. Families and organizations may reject members who air the dirty laundry; friends and family can lost patience with people who get stuck in their grief or hurt. This is one reason why trauma victims often withdraw and why their stories become rote narratives, edited into a form least likely to provoke rejection.

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The worst I think that I ever was, when 'Unforgettable' had come out, and not long after that I was on - I was on my way to my second divorce. And that was a crushing, crushing blow.
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My friends like to play as me in the baseball games, and they call to tell me about every bag I steal. And you know, every time a new game comes out, I check to make sure my speed is up to par. But to me, when you talk video games, you're talking 'Madden.'
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To my mind, an adventure is something a person willingly undertakes.
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We ended up realizing that's not an economical way to create creatures, putting people in green leotards and figuring it out later. You can maybe do that if you're making 'Avatar,' but we need to know what the creatures look like before we turn on the camera.
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All I ever wanted to do is make music.
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Democracy requires common ground on which all can stand, but that ground is sinking beneath our feet, and democracy may be going down the sinkhole with it.
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I want to be like Bradley Cooper when I grow up.
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When I wake up every morning, I thank God for the new day.
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I have thought that I have seen ghosts on many occasions.
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Concerning non-violence: it is criminal to teach a man not to defend himself when he is the constant victim of brutal attacks.
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Omnes homines, patres conscripti, qui de rebus dubiis consultant, ab odio, amicitia, ira atque misericordia vacuos esse decet.
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All I've ever wanted is to be normal.
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Life is too short for a long story.
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We try not to look at everything through a competitive lens.
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You are priests, not social or political leaders. Let us not be under the illusion that we are serving the Gospel through an exaggerated interest in the wide field of temporal problems.
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The minute the money is more, you lose your control, so then there's no point.
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Jellies are to cold cookery what consommes and stock are to hot. If anything, the former are perhaps more important: for a cold entree - however perfect it may be in itself - is nothing without its accompanying jelly.
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To be honest, I found the 3D in 'Avatar' to be inconsistent and while ground breaking in many respects, sometimes I thought it overwhelmed the storytelling. Technology aside, I wish 'Avatar' had been more original in its storytelling.
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Indeed, our British friends have decided to leave us - which is very sad for all of us - but life goes on, and the European Union as well goes on.
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Where I come from, if you see your family and friends' civil rights being taken away, you speak up and do everything you can to keep that from happening!
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I think most actors feel an obligation to do right by the people they're playing.
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... let everyone regard himself as the steward of God in all things which he possesses.
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Talking about painful events doesn’t necessarily establish community – often quite the contrary. Families and organizations may reject members who air the dirty laundry; friends and family can lost patience with people who get stuck in their grief or hurt. This is one reason why trauma victims often withdraw and why their stories become rote narratives, edited into a form least likely to provoke rejection.