Bessel van der Kolk Quotes
The essence of a therapeutic relationship: finding words where words were absent before and, as a result, being able to share your deepest pain and deepest feelings with another human being. This is one of the most profound experiences we can have, and such resonance, in which hitherto unspoken words can be discovered, uttered, and received, is fundamental to healing the isolation of trauma—especially if other people in our lives have ignored or silenced us. Communicating fully is the opposite of being traumatized.
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Don't go into any store that features shopping bags that can stand on their own accord in the middle of a table. This sort of shopping bag denotes prices that will start chipping into your children's college education fund. Avoid it.
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I always knew I would make the record that I made in 'Carter Girl.'
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Any form of art is political if you make it that way.
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When you are studying jazz, the best thing to do is listen to records or listen to live music. It isn't as though you go to a teacher. You just listen as much as you can and absorb everything.
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Common Core results finally give families an accurate barometer of whether our kids are mastering the skills they need to succeed in a knowledge-based global economy, early enough that we can intervene.
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Perfect partners don't exist. Perfect conditions exist for a limited time in which partnerships express themselves best.
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A lot of people can't remember things because they weren't actually there to begin with - they don't take it all in.
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I never lie to my fans.
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In its haste to bolster nationalism, in its obsession with security, Europe is losing its soul.
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If Caravaggio was a photographer today, I would love to work with him. I love his dark vision - I have a dark vision.
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Great entrepreneurs focus intensely on an opportunity where others see nothing. This focus and intensity helps to eliminate wasted effort and distractions. Most companies die from indigestion rather than starvation, i.e., companies suffer from doing too many things at the same time rather than doing too few things very well.
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That a district judge would overrule the president of the United States on a matter of border security in wartime is absurd.
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The great thing about Watergate is, is that the system worked. The American system worked. The press did its job. We did what we were supposed to do.
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My job is to let everybody know what I stand for and to let my light shine. I want to show others the way I live so that hopefully they follow. I can also tell about my experiences as a Christian so that I may help bring others to Christ.
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Everything (he kept saying) is something it isn't. And everybody is always somewhere else.
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Once you've been with each other in a primal, shagging state, it's hard to talk about the weather.
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'Is there anyone in Chasm City she hasn’t deceived?''Possibly, somewhere, but only as an extreme theoretical possibility.'
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The peasantry, having lifted itself up out of its medieval status, cannot politically generate it's own rage. - Speech in Paris, 1934
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Some months ago, while I was preparing a new work, I told a young cinema executive my intention of including in a soundtrack two themes from Bach. But when he asked me which has been the last hit from that Bach?, then I knew that I had no longer place in cinema.
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My definition of success is control.
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When I was 21, I was in a pretty serious band, and we almost got signed - went to New York, showcased, all that - but didn't end up getting signed, and we broke up. I went back to the drawing board; I really took a hit from that whole experience.
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And now Abbie had the new experience of attempting to keep another person courageous. It was more trying than to keep up her own spirits. Why must she always be strong for other people?
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You can not be the judge of another's wishes. If you love someone, you must believe that they know what is best for themselves.
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The essence of a therapeutic relationship: finding words where words were absent before and, as a result, being able to share your deepest pain and deepest feelings with another human being. This is one of the most profound experiences we can have, and such resonance, in which hitherto unspoken words can be discovered, uttered, and received, is fundamental to healing the isolation of trauma—especially if other people in our lives have ignored or silenced us. Communicating fully is the opposite of being traumatized.
