Gavin de Becker Quotes

Niceness is a decision, a strategy of social interaction; it is not a character trait.

Gavin de Becker

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• I just thought it was unconscionable for the Congress to insert itself into this debate. We are particularly unqualified to make that decision and to intrude ourselves into the lives of this family.

  

  Gary Ackerman
  • Family
  • Decision
  • Thought

• TV and films are same for me. I took a decision to be an actor, and I am an actor. I never decided to be TV actor or film actor.

  

  Ram Kapoor
  • Decision
  • Actor
  • Films

• The chef can be very innovative, but the decision is made by the customer.

  

  Barry Lam
  • Decision
  • Customer
  • Chef

• If you're going to write thrillers, you have to make a decision if you are going to be realistic or go off and over.

  

  Karin Slaughter
  • You
  • Decision
  • Over

• The judiciary is entitled to finally resolve a dispute. Not every decision is right.

  

  Kapil Sibal
  • Decision
  • Right
  • Judiciary

• When team members openly and passionately share their opinions about a decision, they don't wonder whether anyone is holding back. Then, when the leader has to step in and make a decision because there is no easy consensus, team members will accept that decision because they know that their ideas were heard and considered.

  

  Patrick Lencioni
  • Team
  • Decision
  • Wonder

• In each verse, a decision awaits us, and we can't choose to close our eyes and let instinct work on its own. Poetic instinct consists of an alert tension.

  

  Octavio Paz
  • Work
  • Eyes
  • Decision

• We need to say that women have sex, have abortions, are at peace with the decision, and move on with their lives. We need to say that is their right, and, moreover, it's good for everyone that they have this right: The whole society benefits when motherhood is voluntary.

  

  Katha Pollitt
  • Good
  • Women
  • Society

• I was very clear that I wanted to keep 'Thor' out of the rest of the Marvel universe for no less than the first six issues. And the success of the book, I think, speaks well to that decision.

  

  J. Michael Straczynski
  • Book
  • Success
  • Universe

• It was really an easy decision for me to be a part of the Lakers. It's priceless. It is one of the few places where I truly get lost in the joy of the moment of that game. All of the stresses and all the responsibilities are gone.

  

  Patrick Soon-Shiong
  • Game
  • Lost
  • Joy

• Shell Oil's decision to pull the plug on drilling for oil in the Chukchi Sea is a major victory for the Arctic.

  

  Frances Beinecke
  • Decision
  • Sea
  • Victory

• I admire a lot of people, but in terms of sport I've always loved the mentality of Tiger Woods on a golf course. I always love his eyes when he's setting himself and focusing on his decision; he has a really strong, focused face and believes that he can make the shot.

  

  Rafael Nadal
  • People
  • Love
  • Decision

• On the plains of hesitation bleach the bones of countless millions who, at the dawn of decision, sat down to wait, and waiting died.

  

  Sam Ewing
  • Decision
  • Waiting
  • Down

• I'm not going to grouse and complain when there's nothing I can do about it. Once you've broken up with somebody, arguing with them is not going to bring them back. You may want to stop their Twitter account or call them up late at night, but they made the decision to leave.

  

  Larry Wilmore
  • Up
  • May
  • Night

• In such seconds of decision entire futures are made.

  

  Dan Simmons
  • Decision

• Status quo just means that everyone's doing it. It doesn't mean that this was divinely ordained, and of course this is the right decision.

  

  Alexis Ohanian
  • Decision

• There are some decision-makers in the world whose version of sanity is a little different from what I consider the right one.

  

  Bruce Cockburn
  • World
  • Different
  • Decision

• Honestly, my smartest business decision was to never do anything that I didn't love doing.

  

  Bennett Miller
  • Business
  • Decision

• But that is how men are! Ungrateful and never satisfied. When you don't have them they hate you because you won't; and when you do have them they hate you again, for some other reason. Or for no reason at all, except that they are discontented children, and can't be satisfied whatever they get, let a woman do what she may.

  

  D. H. Lawrence
  • Men
  • Children
  • May

• I don't think school reform should be motivated by missionary zeal. I think it should be motivated by evidence of what works. I have been critical of Teach For America in the past but I think one of the things about their model that's interesting is that they're constantly looking at it and whether what they're doing works and reassessing their model, and making changes. So to the extent that I believe everyone in the education sector should be looking at evidence, reassessing, making tweaks to figure out what works, I think it's a positive model.

  

  Dana Goldstein
  • Believe
  • Thinking
  • School

• What would McCarthy, what would Nixon, what would Bill Clinton have done if they'd had Twitter?

  

  Jake Tapper
  • Done

• I'm pretty middle-of-the-road. There are some issues I'm more conservative on.

  

  Lisa Kudrow
  • Pretty
  • Road
  • Issues

• It's funny, but to me, when you go to a concert hall and hear electronic pieces from the '60s, I think they sound really dated. But when an orchestra plays a piece from that period, and it's going to sound different every time, it feels more modern to me.

  

  Jonny Greenwood Radiohead
  • Time
  • Different
  • Funny

• Niceness is a decision, a strategy of social interaction; it is not a character trait.

  

  Gavin de Becker
  • Decision
  • Interaction
  • Niceness