Daniel Goleman Quotes
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The other thing is that if you rely solely on medication to manage depression or anxiety, for example, you have done nothing to train the mind, so that when you come off the medication, you are just as vulnerable to a relapse as though you had never taken the medication.
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Emotional Intelligence' refers to the capacity for recognizing our own feelings and those of others, for motivating ourselves, and for managing emotions well in ourselves and in our relationships. It describes abilities distinct from, but complementary to, academic intelligence, the purely cognitive capacities measured by IQ.
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Making choices that improve things for all of us on the planet is an act of compassion, a simple act we can do any time we go shopping.
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We need to re-create boundaries. When you carry a digital gadget that creates a virtual link to the office, you need to create a virtual boundary that didn't exist before.
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A prerequisite to empathy is simply paying attention to the person in pain.
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Teachers need to be comfortable talking about feelings. This is part of teaching emotional literacy - a set of skills we can all develop, including the ability to read, understand, and respond appropriately to one's own emotions and the emotions of others.
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There is an old-fashioned word for the body of skills that emotional intelligence represents: character.
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Scheduling down time as part of your routine is hard but worth it, personally, even professionally.
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My hope was that organizations would start including this range of skills in their training programs - in other words, offer an adult education in social and emotional intelligence.
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In a high-IQ job pool, soft skills like discipline, drive and empathy mark those who emerge as outstanding.
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Buying phosphate-free soap allows you to say, 'My detergent doesn't have the harsh chemicals others do.' The question is, how are you washing with it? The very worst thing for the Earth about detergent is that we heat water to use it.
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People who are emotionally adapt - who know and manage their feelings well, and who read and deal effectively with other people's feelings - are at an advantage in any domain in life, whether in romance and intimate relationships or picking up the unspoken rules that govern success in organizational politics.
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Some children naturally have more cognitive control than others, and in all kids this essential skill is being compromised by the usual suspects: smartphones, TV, etc. But there are many ways that adults can help kids learn better cognitive control.
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If you do a practice and train your attention to hover in the present, then you will build the internal capacity to do that as needed - at will and voluntarily.
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In politics, readily dismissing inconvenient people can easily extend to dismissing inconvenient truths about them.
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Emotions are contagious. We've all known it experientially. You know after you have a really fun coffee with a friend, you feel good. When you have a rude clerk in a store, you walk away feeling bad.
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Mindful meditation has been discovered to foster the ability to inhibit those very quick emotional impulses.
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Feelings are self-justifying, with a set of perceptions and 'proofs' all their own.
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If your emotional abilities aren't in hand, if you don't have self-awareness, if you are not able to manage your distressing emotions, if you can't have empathy and have effective relationships, then no matter how smart you are, you are not going to get very far.
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In a very real sense we have two minds, one that thinks and one that feels. These two fundamentally different ways of knowing interact to construct our mental life.
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The basic premise that children must learn about emotions is that all feelings are okay to have; however, only some reactions are okay.
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We're exposed and carry in our bodies multiple chemicals, and we have to understand how they interact. Both how they individually interact and the thousands of effects they can produce when they interact with the receptors that run our bodies.
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One way to boost our will power and focus is to manage our distractions instead of letting them manage us.
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There are many leaders, not just one. Leadership is distributed. It resides not solely in the individual at the top, but in every person at every level who, in one way or another, acts as a leader to a group of followers - wherever in the organization that person is, whether shop steward, team head, or CEO.