Emily V. Gordon Quotes
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In my professional and personal life, when I meet people who feel broken after a divorce, they can usually be divided into two categories: those who truly believe there's something wrong with them, and those that are using their status as armor.
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Sometimes we put so much effort into things we're doing, like dating or wedding planning, that we don't stop to think about whether or not we even want the results of that effort.
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In high school, I decided that all of my female friends were stupid and traded them for guy friends. I loved horror movies and heavy metal and used these interests to become a 'guys' girl.'
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I think it's lovely when people are more involved in local politics.
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I grew up in a town where there were no Muslims whatsoever, and there was not a lot of exposure.
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Awkward conversations are painful, but they're way easier than divorce, resentment, and heartbreak.
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I remember being a teenager and feeling like I could talk to anyone anywhere about anything.
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In my experience as a therapist and as a friend, it seems that the majority of the breakup resources available are for women and not men. Women, who tend to be more vocal about their emotional struggles, are the squeaky wheel that gets the grease from friends, from online communities, from books, and from therapeutic approaches.
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After my divorce, I took some time off from having a romantic life to begin the tough work of figuring out where I'd gone wrong and what on Earth I could do to understand how to be a whole person in a relationship.
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Don't expect yourself to immediately love your stepchildren. In fact, you may hate them for a bit.
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Get married wherever you like, make accommodations for the people you love so they can attend, and forget about the people who can't.
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When I was young and less wise, I thought that being a feminist meant being independent. It meant not sacrificing your needs for anyone else's and not relying on anyone else for even a smidgen of your happiness or well being.
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Not deciding is a decision. People don't realize that not making a decision is a decision in itself.
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Women are encouraged to go on an emotional journey of self-care after a divorce, while men are expected to need help learning how to cook and parent on their own.
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I haven't always been the best advocate for my own body. I was a too-tall, pudgy child who felt completely out of control of the genetic lottery ticket she'd been given, so in retaliation, I shut down. I ignored my body and hated it for not being tiny and cute like my friends' bodies.
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When someone insists that you watch a show that's already been on for a few seasons, they're basically saying, 'Hey, you're not doing anything for the next five weeks, are you? Because have I got a plan for you every single night! It's 'Weeds!''
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Do remember to pick your battles when you start parenting your stepchildren.
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Betrayal can be extremely painful, but it's up to you how much that pain damages you permanently.
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Sometimes, I hate-watch television.
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In Hollywood, it seems that the people least successful at being married are the ones most eager to tie the knot over and over again.
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I thought of 'The Big Sick' as a placeholder title, to be completely honest. I've grown to love it.
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Marriage, even a happy and successful one, can be extremely stressful, but that stress is worth it if you're marrying the best person for you.
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Hindsight is always 20/20, but I imagine a lot of married and divorced people have insights to share about how they felt during their engagement.
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Sometimes new spouses don't fully process the commitment they've made until after the deal is done, and then they panic.