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Why Family Therapy...because it deals with family pain.
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I am me and I am okay.
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It is now clear to me that the family is a microcosm of the world. To understand the world, we can study the family: issues such as power, intimacy, autonomy, trust, and communication skills are vital parts underlying how we live in the world. To change the world is to change the family.
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People prefer the certainty of misery to the misery of uncertainty
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A growing body of clinical observation has pointed to the conclusion that the family therapy must be oriented to the family as a whole.
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The Problem is never the problem! It is only a symptom of something much deeper.
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The message sent is not always the message received.
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I want to love you without clutching, appreciate you without judging, join you without invading, invite you without demanding, leave you without guilt, criticize you without blaming, and help you without insulting. If I can have the same from you, then we can truly meet and enrich each other.
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Every word, facial expression, gesture, or action on the part of a parent gives the child some message about self-worth. It is sad that so many parents don't realize what messages they are sending.
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We need 4 hugs a day for survival. We need 8 hugs a day for maintenance. We need 12 hugs a day for growth.
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We need to see ourselves as basic miracles.
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Communication is to relationships what breath is to life.
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I own me, and therefore, I can engineer me. I am me, and I am Okay.
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I believe the greatest gift I can conceive of having from anyone is to be seen by them, heard by them, to be understood and touched by them.
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Parents teach in the toughest school in the world - The School for Making People. You are the board of education, the principal, the classroom teacher, and the janitor.
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Once a human being has arrived on this earth, communication is the largest single factor determining what kinds of relationships he makes with others and what happens to him in the world about him.
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As a therapist, I am a companion. I try to help people tune into their own wisdom.
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We get together on the basis of our similarities; we grow on the basis of our differences.
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Problems are not the problem; coping is the problem.
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I want to appreciate you without judging. Join you without invading. Invite you without demanding. Leave you without guilt.
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There are five freedoms: The freedom to see and hear what is; The freedom to say what you feel and think; The freedom to feel what you actually feel; The freedom to ask for what you want; The freedom to take risks on your own behalf.
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Negotiating the adolescent stage is neither quick nor easy.
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Your responses to the events of life are more important than the events themselves.
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So much is asked of parents, and so little is given.