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Gratitude is a choice. Happiness is an attitude.
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Be kind and gentle on yourself. In this fast-paced world, we are so hard on ourselves and impatient with healing. Unfortunately, there is nothing you can do to speed up the process. Sure, you can numb the pain or distract yourself, but if you don't allow yourself to process the emotion in a healthy way, the pain and darkness just gets buried deep inside you, and eventually comes up in your future relationships. Stop blaming yourself, and instead try to look for the lesson and the growth opportunity.
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The "natural" instincts when someone is going through a breakup are counterintuitive to healing. For instance, many people stop eating or eat very unhealthy, and if your body is not fed the necessary nutrients during this trying time, it's extremely difficult for you to heal emotionally. So, first things first, force yourself to eat, even if that entails drinking green smoothies so you're getting nutrients in your body.
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There isn't an anti-extradition protest every day to keep us going, i hope that through todays action, people in Hong Kong will not forget that there are actually many other social issues waiting to be solved.
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Strive to be authentic, not perfect.
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There is no such thing as failure in love. Relationships end, but they don’t fail. Love is only a failure when you don’t learn and you don’t try.
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Sometimes, things need to come undone for better things to come together.
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People will become what you think of them. See them for their beauty and they will rise up. See them for their darkness, and they will fall.
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Chemistry does not guarantee compatibility.
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There's a great difference between being positive and being delusional.
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You don't achieve greatness in life being surrounded by mediocre people with mediocre values. Choose your company wisely.
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Closing the door to toxicity is the most effective way to make space for new opportunity.
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If you want to know someone, just look at who they choose to spend their time with.
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Try to look at the bigger picture. The majority of people you date will not be your destination. They were meant to be a bridge. So find the lesson, the growth opportunity so you don't have to keep repeating your pattern and crossing that same bridge over and over again. Once you learn what you need to learn and become more self-aware and emotionally healthy, you will then cross another bridge, and one day you'll get to your destination.
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You may not be able to change the events of your history, but you can change the story you've attached to those events.
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What really has helped me through my own breakups has been learning tools to self-soothe, reframe, and forgive, and how to channel negative energy into positive. Resilience is a muscle. Learning how to cope and process painful emotions is a muscle. And I've been through enough ups and downs to know that you have a choice. You can use breakups, which are pivotal points in life, as a catalyst for growth, or you can choose to have it make you jaded and more fear-based.
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If you shift your perspective and stop expecting your relationship is supposed to MAKE you happy, you stop giving your power to someone else. You'll stop feeling entitled that it's someone's responsibility to make you feel good.
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Integrity is when your good intentions meet your actions - on a consistent basis.
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Oftentimes, we get advice from people who are not equipped to give it, and it does more harm than good.
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You allow people to treat you the way they do. Your energy, confidence and attitude is the currency that others will transact with.
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Spend less time shopping, more time traveling.
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When you’re constantly taking care of the emotions of others, you avoid having to face your own.
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You cannot teach ambition.
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Repeat after me: I only invest my energy into people who invest in me. I only date people who intentionally want to get to know me. I do not chase people and try to convince them to like me.
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