Anneli Rufus Quotes

Socializing is as exhausting as giving blood. People assume we loners are misanthropes, just sitting thinking, ‘Oh, people are such a bunch of assholes,’ but it’s really not like that. We just have a smaller tolerance for what it takes to be with others. It means having to perform. I get so tired of communicating.

Anneli Rufus

• Tired
• Tolerance
• Socializing

Loners live among the mob, so the mob mistakes us for its own, presuming and assuming. When the mob gets too close, the truth is revealed. Running or walking away, chased or free, any which way, we tell the mob in effect I don't need you.

Anneli Rufus

• Truth
• Mob
• Loners

We believe that whatever feels at first like joy is not. Or is, but will not last. Or should not last. We feel so sure of this that we will undermine our own inklings of joy, blunting the pain we think awaits.

Anneli Rufus

• Pain
• Joy
• Awaits

People say the desert is desolate. Yet for me it's very much alive, full of surprises. As soon as I see those wide-open spaces, I can breathe.

Anneli Rufus

• Alive
• Desert
• Surprises

The whole world is a personality cult.

Anneli Rufus

• World
• Personality
• Cult

Some of us have spent our whole lives committing suicide. And some of us survived.

Anneli Rufus

• Lives
• Suicide
• Survived

The loner who looks fabulous is one of the most vulnerable loners of all.

Anneli Rufus

• Vulnerable
• Fabulous
• Loner

Writing is done alone. People do not talk about the things they do alone.

Anneli Rufus

• Writing
• Alone

We care. We feel. We think. We do not always miss the absent one. We cannot always come when called. Being friends with a loner requires patience and the wisdom that distance does not mean dislike.

Anneli Rufus

• Friends
• Patience
• Loner

They say isolation drives you crazy. Sure it does - when you can't get enough of it.

Anneli Rufus

• Crazy
• Enough
• Isolation