Bessel van der Kolk Quotes
We start learning these ways of regulating our feelings from the first moment someone feeds us when we’re hungry, covers us when we’re cold, or rocks us when we’re hurt or scared. But if no one has ever looked at you with loving eyes or broken out in a smile when she sees you; if no one has rushed to help you (but instead said, “Stop crying, or I’ll give you something to cry about”), then you need to discover other ways of taking care of yourself. You are likely to experiment with anything—drugs, alcohol, binge eating, or cutting—that offers some kind of relief.
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Will Smith said if I ever need some help, he was there for me.
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Let my soul smile through my heart and my heart smile through my eyes, that I may scatter rich smiles in sad hearts.
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Seriously, who really cares how long the Nile river is, or who was the first to discover cheese? How is memorizing that ever going to help anyone? Instead, we need to give kids projects that allow them to exercise their minds and discover things for themselves.
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Deficiency motivation doesn't work. It will lead to a life-long pursuit of try to fix me. Learn to appreciate what you have and where and who you are.
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What is Oracle? It's people. We rely on our HR department to build this organization, to help find those people, to help grow those people.
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I like using animals because they help suspend my reader's disbelief. We have certain ideas about dentists. We don't have many ideas about rhinoceros dentists.
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I'm not against gay people. I have a relative who is also gay. We can't help it if they were born that way.
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Perfecting oneself is as much unlearning as it is learning.
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Before we start filming, I have a strong idea of the look and the feel that I want to create, and I'm happy to explore any means that will help me achieve that.
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After my husband John Lennon passed away, I tried to smile for my health.
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Foreign capital to build new cinemas will help modernize China's aging cinema infrastructure, attract Chinese consumers back into cinemas, and increase demand for U.S. films.
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Sharks are in real trouble, and they need all the help they can get.
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I'm not interested in being Wonder Woman in the delivery room. Give me drugs.
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Remote fountains are of little help to nearby fires.
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What does labor want? We want more school houses and less jails. More books and less guns. More learning and less vice. More leisure and less greed. More justice and less revenge. We want more … opportunities to cultivate our better natures.
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The mass and majesty of this world, all That carries weight and always weighs the same Lay in the hands of others; they were small And could not hope for help and no help came: What their foes like to do was done, their shame Was all the worst could wish; they lost their pride And died as men before their bodies died.
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While I thought I have been learning how to live, I have been learning how to die.
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What do I haveto help me, without spell or prayer,endure this hour, endless, heartless, anonymous,the death of love?
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Myths are wonderful tools that we've had, oh, for eons now that help us navigate the situations we find ourselves in.
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You could turn to others for help, but you couldn’t claim their help by right.
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We each shape our own life, and the shape of it is determined largely by our attitude.
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We start learning these ways of regulating our feelings from the first moment someone feeds us when we’re hungry, covers us when we’re cold, or rocks us when we’re hurt or scared. But if no one has ever looked at you with loving eyes or broken out in a smile when she sees you; if no one has rushed to help you (but instead said, “Stop crying, or I’ll give you something to cry about”), then you need to discover other ways of taking care of yourself. You are likely to experiment with anything—drugs, alcohol, binge eating, or cutting—that offers some kind of relief.
