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		Once the mother comes to see the child not as her partner in an attuned relationship but as a frustrating, enraging, disconnected stranger, the stage is set for subsequent abuse…citing two related studies in 1996 and 2003 led by Karlen Lyons-Ruth Emotional withdrawal had the most profound and lasting impact. Emotional distance and role reversal (in which mothers expected the kids to look after them) were specifically linked to aggressive behavior against self and others in the young adults…Lyons-Ruth concludes that infants who are not truly seen and known by their mothers are at high risk to grow into adolescents who are unable to known and to see.
	
	 
	
		
			
				
					
						 
				
				Bessel van der Kolk 
			 
		 
	
	
  
	 
	 
	
	
	
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		If I hadn't spent many years trying to be as compassionate as Mother Teresa, as positive a thinker as W. Clement Stone, as prolific a writer as Stephen King, and as good a speaker as many of the legends I have studied, I would not be as successful as I am today. 
	
	 
	
		
			
				
					
						 
				
				Jack Canfield 
			 
		 
	
	
  
	 
	
	
	
	
		When you lose your mother at 20 and then your father soon after, melancholia is part of your life. 
	
	 
	
		
			
				
					
						 
				
				Patricia Kaas 
			 
		 
	
	
  
	 
	
	
	
	
		We started by playing girls who only married at the end of the picture. We didn't play wives. That came later. But the most dreadful thing was when a star had to play a mother. That was the beginning of her professional end. 
	
	 
	
		
			
				
					
						 
				
				Lana Turner 
			 
		 
	
	
  
	 
	
	
	
	
		A mother deserves a day off to care for a sick child or sick parent without running into hardship - and you know what, a father does, too. It's time to do away with workplace policies that belong in a 'Mad Men' episode. 
	
	 
	
		
			
				
					
						 
				
				Barack Obama 
			 
		 
	
	
  
	 
	
	
	
	
		I had a father and mother, who were devout and feared God. Our Lord also helped me with His grace. All this would have been enough to make me good, if I had not been so wicked. 
	
	 
	
		
			
				
					
						 
				
				Saint Teresa of Avila 
			 
		 
	
	
  
	 
	
	
	
	
		So the proposition that the ideal parents for any child are its biological parents is a statement with which we can all agree in the generality, but which does not apply, for one reason or another, in many particular circumstances. 
	
	 
	
		
			
				
					
						 
				
				Malcolm Turnbull 
			 
		 
	
	
  
	 
	 
		
	
	
	
	
		'Perfect' is about a set-up that looks perfect from the outside - beautiful country house, beautiful wife and mother, everything where it should be - and the deep fissures that, in fact, lie beneath that. 'Perfect' was partly a response to the shock of my first book, 'The Unlikely Pilgrimage Of Harold Fry,' being a success. 
	
	 
	
		
			
				
					
						 
				
				Rachel Joyce 
			 
		 
	
	
  
	 
	
	
	
	
		We still have a soft approach on the perpetrators of crimes like worst forms of child labour. 
	
	 
	
		
			
				
					
						 
				
				Kailash Satyarthi 
			 
		 
	
	
  
	 
	
	
	
	
		That's always a fun thing to play, a relationship where there's equals. I often play roles that are repressive, or women who are slightly repressed or having some kind of internal conflict. 
	
	 
	
		
			
				
					
						 
				
				Laila Robins 
			 
		 
	
	
  
	 
	
	
	
	
		Poetry is a form of mathematics, a highly rigorous relationship with words. 
	
	 
	
		
			
				
					
						 
				
				Tahar Ben Jelloun 
			 
		 
	
	
  
	 
	
	
	
	
		My mother's husband Harry Bloom was a writer, a novelist, a reporter, and an anti-apartheid activist. 
	
	 
	
		
			
				
					
						 
				
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		The first time I went on stage as an adult was touring with the Johnny Cash Show. I'd sang as a child. But my grown-up initiation was as part of that band. 
	
	 
	
		
			
				
					
						 
				
				Carlene Carter 
			 
		 
	
	
  
	 
	 
		
	
	
	
	
		I've definitely, you know, been with women. And I've had great relationships with them where I was definitely in love. It's just I grew to a point where deep inside I knew that I could never truly have a relationship with a woman. I don't know if they ever suspected. It was never brought up. 
	
	 
	
		
			
				
					
						 
				
				Lance Bass 
			 
			
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		I realised I had to work in something creative, but with a business and global element. And that I had to do it while I was still young and had an appetite for risk. 
	
	 
	
		
			
				
					
						 
				
				Imran Amed 
			 
		 
	
	
  
	 
	
	
	
	
		My mother was American, and my father was from the Caribbean, and there was a big open door into the world of humanity and music. 
	
	 
	
		
			
				
					
						 
				
				Henry Saint Clair Fredericks 
			 
		 
	
	
  
	 
	
	
	
	
		I certainly wanted to maintain some sense of mystery about Picard and that's why we never allowed certain situations to fully evolve, like the relationship between Picard and Beverly Crusher. 
	
	 
	
		
			
				
					
						 
				
				Patrick Stewart 
			 
		 
	
	
  
	 
	
	
	
	
		I'm an independent artist, but I do have a good business relationship with Lego, since I'm a unique customer. They're aware of what I'm doing. A painter may not have a relationship with a paint maker, but there's only one company that makes Lego. 
	
	 
	
		
			
				
					
						 
				
				Nathan Sawaya 
			 
		 
	
	
  
	 
	
	
	
	
		If we ensure access to health care and 'best practice' asthma treatment for children, especially those at high risk, there is the potential to save the health care system billions of dollars. 
	
	 
	
		
			
				
					
						 
				
				Irwin Redlener 
			 
		 
	
	
  
	 
	 
		
	
	
	
	
		Cooking skills aside, my mother is an exceptional nurturer. 
	
	 
	
		
			
				
					
						 
				
				Jami Attenberg 
			 
		 
	
	
  
	 
	
	
	
	
		I always try to write from memory, and I always try to use memory as an editor. So when I'm thinking of something like a relationship or whatever, then I'm letting my memory tell me what the important things were. 
	
	 
	
		
			
				
					
						 
				
				Jeffrey Brown 
			 
		 
	
	
  
	 
	
	
	
	
		The one thing that even my staunchest opponents will admit is I'm a straight shooter and that I'm a man of my word. 
	
	 
	
		
			
				
					
						 
				
				Ken Cuccinelli 
			 
		 
	
	
	 
	
	
	
	
		She suddenly began to jump up and down, screaming at the top of her lungs. "The arks are after me! The arks are after me! Help me, the arks are after me!" .... "The arks! You don't understand, I have the ring and the arks are after me!" .... (and so the police officer is puzzled long enough for Miriam and Seth to escape) 
	
	 
	
		
			
				
					
						 
				
				Ted Dekker 
			 
		 
	
	
  
	 
	
	
	
	
		I just don't think you can make records easily and have them be great. It's a process. You've got to get really lucky all the time, or you've got to work like mad. 
	
	 
	
		
			
				
					
						 
				
				Britt Daniel 
			 
		 
	
	
  
	 
	
	
	
	
		Once the mother comes to see the child not as her partner in an attuned relationship but as a frustrating, enraging, disconnected stranger, the stage is set for subsequent abuse…citing two related studies in 1996 and 2003 led by Karlen Lyons-Ruth Emotional withdrawal had the most profound and lasting impact. Emotional distance and role reversal (in which mothers expected the kids to look after them) were specifically linked to aggressive behavior against self and others in the young adults…Lyons-Ruth concludes that infants who are not truly seen and known by their mothers are at high risk to grow into adolescents who are unable to known and to see. 
	
	 
	
		
			
				
					
						 
				
				Bessel van der Kolk