Bessel van der Kolk Quotes
One thing is certain: Yelling at someone who is already out of control can only lead to further dysregulation. Just as your dog cowers if you shout and wags his tail when you speak in a high singsong, we humans respond to harsh voices with fear, anger, or shutdown and to playful tones by opening up and relaxing. We simply cannot help but respond to these indicators of safety or danger.
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Confirming John Roberts would endanger much of the progress made by the nation in civil rights over the past half century.
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There is nothing more boring than doing singing exercises.
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As far as I'm concerned, if you want to find out about the last day of WWII or the roots of the Indian Mutiny, get thee to a books catalogue.
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I keep waiting to meet a man who has more balls than I do.
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The thing about being a mystery writer, what marks a mystery writer out from a chick lit author or historical fiction writer, is that you always find a mystery in every situation.
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I spend a lot of time balancing between faith and disbelief.
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God is the indwelling and not the transient cause of all things.
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My life is so full of sacrifices.
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Great men lose somewhat of their greatness by being near us; ordinary men gain much.
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Well, knowledge is a fine thing, and mother Eve thought so; but she smarted so severely for hers, that most of her daughters have been afraid of it since.
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Start early and begin raising the bar throughout the day.
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Courtroom dramas can be boring.
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Caffeine. The gateway drug.
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There's no way to reconstruct reality. It happened once. What you do is reinterpret and recreate. Even if you have the person who lived it and did it next to you, the event happened just once.
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How could you disguise your own thoughts so even you didn't know what you were thinking?
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Having a period of - well, austerity, shall we say - certainly humbles you.
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Americans think of themselves collectively as a huge rescue squad on twenty-four-hour call to any spot on the globe where dispute and conflict may erupt.
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I wish the world was flat like the old days Then i could travel just by folding a map No more airplanes, or speed trains, or freeways There'd be no distance that could hold us back
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Men do communicate, often very directly, but women sometimes cannot accept how simple what we have to say is.
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We tend to think of memories as monuments we once forged and may find intact beneath the weedy growth of years. But, in a real sense, memories are tied to and describe the present. Formed in an idiosyncratic way when they happened, they're also true to the moment of recall, including how you feel, all you've experienced, and new values, passions, and vulnerability. One never steps into the same stream of consciousness twice.
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Self-control is one mark of a mature person; it applies to control of language, physical treatment of others, and the appetites of the body.
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I've had great success and I've had catastrophic failure. It's really how you handle the rough stuff that defines you, I think.
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The thing about innovation in financial markets is they're always building on what has come before. It's a natural process.
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One thing is certain: Yelling at someone who is already out of control can only lead to further dysregulation. Just as your dog cowers if you shout and wags his tail when you speak in a high singsong, we humans respond to harsh voices with fear, anger, or shutdown and to playful tones by opening up and relaxing. We simply cannot help but respond to these indicators of safety or danger.
