Bessel van der Kolk Quotes
One thing is certain: Yelling at someone who is already out of control can only lead to further dysregulation. Just as your dog cowers if you shout and wags his tail when you speak in a high singsong, we humans respond to harsh voices with fear, anger, or shutdown and to playful tones by opening up and relaxing. We simply cannot help but respond to these indicators of safety or danger.
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There is nothing more boring than doing singing exercises.
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As far as I'm concerned, if you want to find out about the last day of WWII or the roots of the Indian Mutiny, get thee to a books catalogue.
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I keep waiting to meet a man who has more balls than I do.
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The thing about being a mystery writer, what marks a mystery writer out from a chick lit author or historical fiction writer, is that you always find a mystery in every situation.
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I spend a lot of time balancing between faith and disbelief.
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God is the indwelling and not the transient cause of all things.
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My life is so full of sacrifices.
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Great men lose somewhat of their greatness by being near us; ordinary men gain much.
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Well, knowledge is a fine thing, and mother Eve thought so; but she smarted so severely for hers, that most of her daughters have been afraid of it since.
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Start early and begin raising the bar throughout the day.
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Courtroom dramas can be boring.
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Caffeine. The gateway drug.
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There's no way to reconstruct reality. It happened once. What you do is reinterpret and recreate. Even if you have the person who lived it and did it next to you, the event happened just once.
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How could you disguise your own thoughts so even you didn't know what you were thinking?
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Having a period of - well, austerity, shall we say - certainly humbles you.
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Americans think of themselves collectively as a huge rescue squad on twenty-four-hour call to any spot on the globe where dispute and conflict may erupt.
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I wish the world was flat like the old days Then i could travel just by folding a map No more airplanes, or speed trains, or freeways There'd be no distance that could hold us back
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Aber Demokratie ist nicht immer eine Sache von einsamen Entscheidungen, sondern in der Regel ein Geschäft der Meinungsbildung vieler.
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Science was many things, Nadia thought, including a weapon with which to hit other scientists.
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Language is very deceiving. In certain languages, there is certain vocabulary that doesn't exist in other languages. It totally changes how people feel about things.
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If I look back I feel frightened, not happy, because my life is a bit of a mystery to me.
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Among Muslims, I think there are some who are very good and some hoodlums, like everywhere.
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It is not a process of bargaining or give-and-take. The peace process is not about giving concessions. We will not allow any step which would hurt the memories of our martyrs.
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One thing is certain: Yelling at someone who is already out of control can only lead to further dysregulation. Just as your dog cowers if you shout and wags his tail when you speak in a high singsong, we humans respond to harsh voices with fear, anger, or shutdown and to playful tones by opening up and relaxing. We simply cannot help but respond to these indicators of safety or danger.
