Bessel van der Kolk Quotes
In our society the most common traumas in women and children occur at the hands of their parents or intimate partners. Child abuse, molestation, and domestic violence all are inflicted by people who are supposed to love you. That knocks out the most important protection against being traumatized: being sheltered by the people you love. If the people whom you naturally turn to for care and protection terrify or reject you, you learn to shut down and to ignore what you feel.
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I am neither a Bengali nor am I from Delhi's St Stephen's. I am an Allahabad boy.
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If this were all to go away tomorrow, all the big success, I would still be very happy going from bar to bar playing music for people.
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My first workshop was in Rome, and that was the start of House of Waris. In a little magical atelier, a goldsmith, his apprentice, his stone setter - and that was where it began.
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We had to get serious and hit all aspects. We had to graduate. That's what you got to do: reach all people across the nation.
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I learn something not because I have to, but because I really want to. That's the same view I have for performing. I'm performing because I really want to, not because I have to bring bread back home.
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I'm just going to have fun. Maybe that will be the most important thing to do.
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I came to the industry with wide eyes and an open heart thinking I was going to make a few films that really meant something that I could pour myself into.
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The Arab awakening was driven by youth, organized by technology, and fired by a hunger for political change.
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I'm not an actress; I'm not a professional testifier.
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When you are in the public eye, you have to protect yourself. There are so many people judging you. I just try to be myself.
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There are, in fact, very few organic zinc compounds; only the first members of the series, which correspond to the simplest organic radicals, can be prepared without too much difficulty, but they have the disadvantage of being spontaneously inflammable in air and are consequently very dangerous to handle.
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A scholar who cherishes the love of comfort is not fit to be deemed a scholar.
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I really believe in the idea of the future.
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In the one defence, briefly, we accept responsibility but deny that it was bad: in the other, we admit that it was bad but don't accept full, or even any, responsibility.
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It was so strange. I knew that Josephine Baker had performed on the same stage but that night I felt it. Many of the same people who worked with Josephine Baker are still here. They know what they're doing. And that was a very comfortable feeling.
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Holy scripture does not hold women back. It's the people that decide to interpret it in such a way for their own, sometimes political, agendas.
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There's a rumor going around that I'm Miss Goody-two-shoes from Australia. Well, that's a laugh. I'm really Miss Goody-two-shoes from England!
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At the beginning of writing fiction, too much of the newspaper style was getting into the prose, so I thought, 'Gee, I should try writing longhand. Maybe I can tap something that goes back to the point before I could type.'
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If you give me any problem in America I can trace it down to domestic violence. It is the cradle of most of the problems, economic, psychological, educational.
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Parents usually educate their children merely in such a manner than however bad the world may be, they may adapt themselves to its present conditions. But they ought to give them an education so much better than this, that a better condition of things may thereby be brought about by the future.
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There's a fascination frantic in a ruin that's romantic.
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I don't think the alternative to Yale is jail by any means. On the other hand, there is a mass of research that does show that there are real advantages to your subsequent career in going to selective institutions.
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In our society the most common traumas in women and children occur at the hands of their parents or intimate partners. Child abuse, molestation, and domestic violence all are inflicted by people who are supposed to love you. That knocks out the most important protection against being traumatized: being sheltered by the people you love. If the people whom you naturally turn to for care and protection terrify or reject you, you learn to shut down and to ignore what you feel.
