Bessel van der Kolk Quotes
After trauma the world becomes sharply divided between those who know and those who don’t. People who have not shared the traumatic experience cannot be trusted, because they can’t understand it. Sadly, this often includes spouses, children, and co-workers.
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When you can score three goals without the most prolific scorer in the world, you know you have a lot of depth, and it gives you confidence.
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As someone who has had cancer, I learned that you don't have to die. Look at me. Because of early detection, I'm fine. I'm cured. I'm well.
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Increasing inequality in income distribution in this country has broader policy implications, and there is also the growing problem of perverse incentives that result from executives receiving grossly disproportionate compensation based on decisions they themselves take.
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The future rewards those who press on. I don't have time to feel sorry for myself. I don't have time to complain. I'm going to press on.
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I've always been busy, but I wasn't always successful.
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When you forgive somebody, it doesn't necessarily mean you want to invite them to your table.
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Men have looked upon the desert as barren land, the free holding of whoever chose; but in fact each hill and valley in it had a man who was its acknowledged owner and would quickly assert the right of his family or clan to it, against aggression.
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I began revolution with 82 men. If I had to do it again, I do it with 10 or 15 and absolute faith. It does not matter how small you are if you have faith and plan of action.
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I could be equally happy on a film set or in the middle of a field.
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Failure means a stripping away of the inessential.
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When the flower blooms, the bees come uninvited.
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You know, I think everything I do cinematically for the rest of my life will probably have some direct route back to Jonathan. But I love him to death. He's like my best friend and my big brother.
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If falling into desperation worked to make things better, then I would say, 'Let's all jump into despair.' But it doesn't help. The only way to truly find meaning and fulfillment is to look at the disaster, the pain, the difficulty, and know with complete certainty that good can come from this.
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I had a really hard time when I was 16, 17, 18. I started with the eating disorder in high school.
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Some people talk as if meeting the gaze of absolute goodness would be fun. They need to think again. They are still only playing with religion. Goodness is either the great safety or the great danger-according to the way you react to it.
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I play. But this is what I think.
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Science brings men nearer to God.
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Ideas, unlike solid structures, do not perish. They remain immortal, immaterial and everywhere, like all Divine things. Ideas are a golden, savage landscape that we wander unaware, without a map. Be careful: in the last analysis, reality may be exactly what we think it is.
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Knowledge comes, but wisdom lingers. It may not be difficult to store up in the mind a vast quantity of facts within a comparatively short time, but the ability to form judgments requires the severe discipline of hard work and the tempering heat of experience and maturity.
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I had a mystical experience when I was in my late teens, early 20s, and I spent years trying to recapture that.
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You can't leave out half the world's experience and expect to address all the problems. Women communicate differently and process information differently, which leads them to resolve conflicts differently.
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We're not trying to be the only route into teaching. We do put enormous energy into understanding what differentiates the most successful teachers.
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Never been to Sesame Street but I flip a Big Bird. And I know "stealers" and they not from Pittsburgh.
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After trauma the world becomes sharply divided between those who know and those who don’t. People who have not shared the traumatic experience cannot be trusted, because they can’t understand it. Sadly, this often includes spouses, children, and co-workers.
