Bessel van der Kolk Quotes
After trauma the world becomes sharply divided between those who know and those who don’t. People who have not shared the traumatic experience cannot be trusted, because they can’t understand it. Sadly, this often includes spouses, children, and co-workers.
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When you can score three goals without the most prolific scorer in the world, you know you have a lot of depth, and it gives you confidence.
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As someone who has had cancer, I learned that you don't have to die. Look at me. Because of early detection, I'm fine. I'm cured. I'm well.
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Increasing inequality in income distribution in this country has broader policy implications, and there is also the growing problem of perverse incentives that result from executives receiving grossly disproportionate compensation based on decisions they themselves take.
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The future rewards those who press on. I don't have time to feel sorry for myself. I don't have time to complain. I'm going to press on.
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I've always been busy, but I wasn't always successful.
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When you forgive somebody, it doesn't necessarily mean you want to invite them to your table.
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Men have looked upon the desert as barren land, the free holding of whoever chose; but in fact each hill and valley in it had a man who was its acknowledged owner and would quickly assert the right of his family or clan to it, against aggression.
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I began revolution with 82 men. If I had to do it again, I do it with 10 or 15 and absolute faith. It does not matter how small you are if you have faith and plan of action.
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I could be equally happy on a film set or in the middle of a field.
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Failure means a stripping away of the inessential.
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When the flower blooms, the bees come uninvited.
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You know, I think everything I do cinematically for the rest of my life will probably have some direct route back to Jonathan. But I love him to death. He's like my best friend and my big brother.
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If falling into desperation worked to make things better, then I would say, 'Let's all jump into despair.' But it doesn't help. The only way to truly find meaning and fulfillment is to look at the disaster, the pain, the difficulty, and know with complete certainty that good can come from this.
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I had a really hard time when I was 16, 17, 18. I started with the eating disorder in high school.
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Some people talk as if meeting the gaze of absolute goodness would be fun. They need to think again. They are still only playing with religion. Goodness is either the great safety or the great danger-according to the way you react to it.
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I play. But this is what I think.
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Science brings men nearer to God.
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Ideas, unlike solid structures, do not perish. They remain immortal, immaterial and everywhere, like all Divine things. Ideas are a golden, savage landscape that we wander unaware, without a map. Be careful: in the last analysis, reality may be exactly what we think it is.
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Boy George always told me to stop noodling; he wanted me to belt like Ethel Merman.
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I just want to try to ignore the scrutiny and all the distractions and just play hard basketball and let the best come... Improving game by game and trying to improve my game is what I want to do.
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I hate to sound cliche, but I understand why people love to cook. It's fun!
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I was a trader for a company. That's different from the brokers who we sort of disdain as sort of just errand boys.
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I probably would have gone the M.F.A. route except I was a dad at 19, and it made more sense to go to work for a newspaper and support a kid that way. But the funny thing is, that detour became the most important step in my developing as a novelist.
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After trauma the world becomes sharply divided between those who know and those who don’t. People who have not shared the traumatic experience cannot be trusted, because they can’t understand it. Sadly, this often includes spouses, children, and co-workers.
