Bessel van der Kolk Quotes

Trauma increases the risk of misinterpreting whether a particular situation is dangerous or safe. You can get along with other people only if you can accurately gauge whether their intentions are benign or dangerous. Even a slight misreading can lead to painful misunderstandings in relationships at home and at work. Functioning effectively in a complex work environment or a household filled with rambunctious kids requires the ability to quickly assess how people are feeling and continuously adjusting your behavior accordingly. Faulty alarm systems lead to blowups or shutdowns in response to innocuous comments or facial expressions.

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• When you are doing a show, it can get really dull. You are sitting so long while they set up the lights, then you say a couple of lines, then they tear down the lights again. At least stunts are something that uses your physical energy a great deal.

  

  Yvonne Craig
  • Up
  • Great
  • Long

• When I was in school, you could pick any instrument you want, and they'd teach you how to play it. That changed my life. I loved playing music in school, and it sent me on my path as a musician.

  

  Flea Jane's Addiction
  • Life
  • Music
  • School

• We are cyborgs already. If you learn to read, it causes permanent changes to the structure of your brain for your entire life.

  

  Ramez Naam
  • Life
  • Brain
  • Changes

• The important thing isn't the house. It's the ability to make it. You carry that in your brains and in your hands, wherever you go... It's one thing to carry your life wherever you go. Another thing to always go looking for it somewhere else.

  

  Barbara Kingsolver
  • Life
  • Important
  • House

• But I was very, very unhappy because my mother was very charming and generous, but to me, very dominating.

  

  Beatrice Wood
  • Mother
  • Me
  • Unhappy

• Google is working on self-driving cars, and they seem to work. People are so bad at driving cars that computers don't have to be that good to be much better.

  

  Marc Andreesen
  • People
  • Good
  • Work

• I find skydiving really hard. I broke my back while skydiving when I was in the military, and for 18 months all my nightmares were about falling.

  

  Bear Grylls
  • Military
  • Find
  • Falling

• Whether you're making a million dollar film or a $100 million film there is never enough money, there's never enough time.

  

  Vera Farmiga
  • Time
  • Money
  • Never

• It's not until the very last phase that you know how good the works are going to be.

  

  Caio Fonseca
  • Good
  • You
  • Know

• Ziggy Marley is the third generation of Marleys I know. I knew his grandmother and his dad - I did a children's album with his grandmother. They're like family.

  

  Henry Saint Clair Fredericks
  • Children
  • Family
  • Dad

• Americans don't want cowboys to be gay.

  

  Larry McMurtry
  • Want
  • Gay
  • Cowboys

• As an actor, the ambition is to play interesting characters. And in the indie genre world, the budgets are low. That allows me, as an actor, not to have a financial value behind my name, to justify me being in these bigger parts for these types of movies.

  

  A. J. Bowen
  • World
  • Interesting
  • Value

• In a comedy, after the day is done, you can figure out ways of how to make it even funnier for the next day. In dramas, it's very different - the mindset that you're in.

  

  Gael Garcia Bernal
  • Different
  • Done
  • Comedy

• Eating a lot is an occupational hazard but it's a pretty great problem to have. I spend a lot of time eating sweets on TV - cake, cupcakes, donuts, and pudding. It's a dream job, but at the same time there will be days where I wake up knowing I will eat 15 desserts!

  

  Gail Simmons
  • Up
  • Time
  • Great

• I don't rely on my figure to sell records.

  

  Adele
  • Records
  • Figure
  • Rely

• Let me break it down for you again, You know I only say it because I'm truly genuine: Don't be a hard rock when you really are a gem.

  

  Lauryn Hill Fugees
  • Rock
  • Again
  • Genuine

• It is impossible to conduct your life as a disciple without definite times of secret prayer.

  

  Oswald Chambers
  • Life
  • Prayer
  • Conduct

• Which of us is happy in this world? Which of us has his desire? or, having it, is satisfied?

  

  William Makepeace Thackeray
  • World
  • Desire
  • Joy

• To be a good actor, you need to be able to emote with your body.

  

  Nora Fatehi
  • Body
  • Actor
  • Emote

• The writer's secret is not inspiration - for it is never clear where it comes from - it is his stubbornness, his patience.

  

  Orhan Pamuk
  • Inspiration
  • Secret
  • Patience

• I've been really surprised about a lot of the negative comments about artisanal pencil sharpening. Like, it really rubs some people the wrong way.

  

  David Rees
  • People
  • Comment
  • Comments

• Trauma increases the risk of misinterpreting whether a particular situation is dangerous or safe. You can get along with other people only if you can accurately gauge whether their intentions are benign or dangerous. Even a slight misreading can lead to painful misunderstandings in relationships at home and at work. Functioning effectively in a complex work environment or a household filled with rambunctious kids requires the ability to quickly assess how people are feeling and continuously adjusting your behavior accordingly. Faulty alarm systems lead to blowups or shutdowns in response to innocuous comments or facial expressions.

  

  Bessel van der Kolk
  • Relationships
  • Safe
  • Response