Bessel van der Kolk Quotes
Securely attached kids learn the difference between situations they can control and situations where they need help. They learn that they can play an active role when faced with difficult situations. In contrast, children with histories of abuse and neglect learn that their terror, pleading, and crying do not register with their caregiver. Nothing they can do or say stops the beating or brings attention and help. In effect they’re being conditioned to give up when they face challenges later in life.
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I've always really been interested in the Pygmalion myth and both what it has to say about creativity and what it has to say about relationships between men and women.
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Why would Senator Allen want to oppose saving money for the state? It's simply another example of Republicans fighting the governor tooth and nail against any measure where she might be able to turn the state's budget around.
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It is literally true that you can succeed best and quickest by helping others to succeed.
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I believe it is an important project, it makes the cost of doing business lower and they will make us more competitive at the same time, it will also provide some satisfaction to the people who demand services for them of the quality they want and also quickly.
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LeBron James can get a shot off under any and all circumstances and he makes them.
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Racism is everywhere - the older generations in Malaysia still say things like, 'She's darker-skinned; maybe don't marry her,' and it's very judgmental. A lot of girls do try to get fairness cream to lighten their skin, and I'm against all of that.
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O Lord, help me to be pure, but not yet.
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I grew up as a Southern Baptist with strict adherence to the Bible, which I read as a youngster.
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With women, there's a basic female instinct of caring deeply about the way they look; women stars have a narcissist complex.
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I am blessed to receive a word from God every day in receiving the scriptures and reading the scriptures. And God speaks through the Bible.
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But I had a very traditional background as well. My parents are neat people.
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I try to cook dinner, but it's difficult when I'm working.
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In spring, the dead trees, roots, and animals come to life again exactly as they were, thus providing hundreds of thousands of examples, specimens, and proofs of the supreme resurrection.
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Now, the typical way you make good things happen in Washington is you find a bunch of wealthy companies who agree with you.
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It's funny. All you have to do is say something nobody understands and they'll do practically anything you want them to.
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I do movies I would go to see.
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Hearing the blues changed my life.
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A person who is shallow aspires to depth; one who is ugly aspires to beauty; one who is narrow aspires to breadth; one who is poor aspires to wealth; one who is humble aspires to esteem. Whatever one lacks in oneself he must seek outside.
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I would have thought it possible to choose delegates for these larger conferences who, even if they could not speak the principal languages, could at least understand them or could have friends seated beside them who could keep them informed on essential points.
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Everybody is looking for instant success, but it doesn't work that way. You build a successful life one day at a time.
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I'm not going to lie to you fellas, I've been drinking.
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The difference was you worked for Nixon, and with Ford.
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My mom is a huge woman of worth for me because she's been my idol my whole life. My mom was someone who juggled everything. She had her own career, she raised five kids, she was Superwoman... and she was never satisfied doing just one thing because... she probably just had too much energy.
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Securely attached kids learn the difference between situations they can control and situations where they need help. They learn that they can play an active role when faced with difficult situations. In contrast, children with histories of abuse and neglect learn that their terror, pleading, and crying do not register with their caregiver. Nothing they can do or say stops the beating or brings attention and help. In effect they’re being conditioned to give up when they face challenges later in life.
