Charles L. Whitfield Quotes
Rather happiness, peace or serenity is our natural state. Beneath all of what we add to our feelings and experience, beneath our self-contraction, lies serenity Itself.
Charles L. Whitfield
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They are often in a shame-based system, which attempts to cover over and even destroy the True Self.
Charles L. Whitfield
Gradually, as more and more of our needs are met, we discover a crucial truth: that we are the most influential, effective and powerful person who can help us get what we need. The more we realize this, the more we can seek out, ask for and actually realize our needs.
Charles L. Whitfield
As we do so, our Child Within begins to awaken and eventually to flourish, grow and create. Virginia Satir said, “We need to see ourselves as basic miracles and worthy of love.
Charles L. Whitfield
Paradoxically, we often feel like this false self is our natural state, the way we “should be.” This could be our addiction or attachment to being that way. We become so accustomed to being our false self that our Real Self feels guilty, like something is wrong, that we shouldn’t feel real and alive. To consider changing this problem is frightening.
Charles L. Whitfield
Many children from troubled families have difficulty relaxing and having fun. Ability to be spontaneous and to play is a need and a characteristic of our Child Within.
Charles L. Whitfield
The way out is to surrender, and then to become, gradually, a co-creator of life. This is where the spiritual aspect of recovery comes into play as a powerful aid. Attendance at and working 12 Step recovery programs such as Al-Anon, Alcoholics Anonymous, Narcotics Anonymous, ACA/ACoA, CoDA, and Overeaters Anonymous and others are helpful. Other spiritual paths may also be helpful.
Charles L. Whitfield
No matter which concern, problem or life-issue we may want to work on, risking and beginning to talk about it with a safe person or persons is a way out of the unnecessary burden of remaining silent. And when we tell our story from our hearts, bones and guts, we discover the truth about ourselves. Doing so is healing
Charles L. Whitfield
When we allow ourselves to feel these painful feelings, give them an accurate name, and when we share the grief with safe and supportive others over time, we are able to complete our grief work and thus be free of it.
Charles L. Whitfield
Spirituality is about the relationships that we have with our self, with others and with the universe.
Charles L. Whitfield
False self, co-dependent self, unauthentic or public self.
Charles L. Whitfield
The primary focus of psychotherapy involves the integration of feelings (affect) and thinking (cognition), resulting in personal growth.
Charles L. Whitfield
This lack of awareness of a major source of the family chaos results in extensive, destructive and unnecessary acceptance, as well as self blame and guilt among family members.
Charles L. Whitfield
