Esther Perel Quotes
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To look at infidelity from the point of view of sex is a complete narrowing of the phenomenon. There's a reason that the commandment is repeated twice in the Bible - once for doing it and once for thinking about it. We have always created structures and broken structures. It is essential to the human spirit.
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You never know your partner as well as you think.
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Today, our sexuality is an open-ended personal project; it is part of who we are, an identity, and no longer merely something we do.
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Everyone should cultivate a secret garden.
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One of the big misconceptions is that affairs or trysts are flings about sex. And sometimes they are, but much more often they are about desire. And that is very different. The desire to feel special, to feel seen, to feel appreciated, to be laughed at or with. The desire to be desired. That does not manifest in a sexual act per se. Affairs make you feel alive. Alchemy means it's not about the actual sex, but the sexuality, the energy, the aura. It's the imagination and anticipation of it as much or instead of the actual experience of it.
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One of the most amazing abilities of sexuality is to momentarily transcend the borders of Self into something that is no longer defined by physical property and that is utterly unique. It's really what many call a religious experience.
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In dating, if you say no, your lover goes on to the next person. In marriage, if you say no, the person stays.
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Success, to me, is helping one person or many people counter the isolation and pseudoconnectivity of our lives by boosting their ability to connect to themselves and to others.
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Marriage isn't meant to make you happy - it's there because it gives you a life in which you can find happiness.
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Most of us will get turned on at night by the very same things that we will demonstrate against during the day - the erotic mind is not very politically correct.
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Sex is about where you can take me, not what you can do to me.
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It isn’t so much that we want to leave the person we are with as we want to leave the person we have become.