Esther Perel Quotes
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Everyone should cultivate a secret garden.
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In dating, if you say no, your lover goes on to the next person. In marriage, if you say no, the person stays.
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I say no to a double standard that men can roam and women must stay put at home. I say no to the fact that men are allowed to claim their sexuality and women just have to pretend that it doesn't matter to them. It's resisting poor relational arrangements. An affair is a way of saying, "No. I'm not playing by the rules." And sometimes betrayal is part of that because you deceive somebody else but you feel like you are, for the first time, being honest with yourself. Sometimes when people have affairs, they feel like they have been lying to themselves for years.
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It's our imagination that's responsible for love, not the other person.
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Sex is about where you can take me, not what you can do to me.
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You never know your partner as well as you think.
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Today, our sexuality is an open-ended personal project; it is part of who we are, an identity, and no longer merely something we do.
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Most of us will get turned on at night by the very same things that we will demonstrate against during the day - the erotic mind is not very politically correct.
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Marriage isn't meant to make you happy - it's there because it gives you a life in which you can find happiness.
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It isn’t so much that we want to leave the person we are with as we want to leave the person we have become.
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One of the most amazing abilities of sexuality is to momentarily transcend the borders of Self into something that is no longer defined by physical property and that is utterly unique. It's really what many call a religious experience.
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Success, to me, is helping one person or many people counter the isolation and pseudoconnectivity of our lives by boosting their ability to connect to themselves and to others.