Bel Kaufman Quotes
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There is a need for closeness, yet we can't get too close. The teacher-pupil relationship is a kind of tightrope to be walked. I know how carefully I must choose a word, a gesture. I understand the delicate balance between friendliness and familiarity, dignity and aloofness. I am especially aware of this in trying to reclaim Ferone. I don't know why it's so important to me. Perhaps because he, too, is a rebel. Perhaps because he's been so damaged. He's too bright and too troubled to be lost in the shuffle.
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Lady Mary Wortley Montagu, the eighteenth-century letter writer and biographer wrote: “Civility costs nothing and buys everything.
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Apparently this r had to be worked for: Varya told me that as a child she couldn’t pronounce it properly, and that her father would make her repeat a series of exercises about gorgeous grapes growing on Mount Ararat and three hundred thirty-three drummers drumming on three hundred thirty-three drums.
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He was taking off his tie, the dreadful tie with the green mermaid on it. “It’s your tie, Sam—I hate it! Why must you always . . .” I’m not saying it right, she thought, not any of it.
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Had set out to tell you exactly what happened. But since I am the one writing this, how do I know what in my telling I am selecting, omitting, emphasizing; what unconscious editing I am doing?
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Without love, the art of love is mere acrobatics. Without love, the art of giving is mere etiquette.
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Education can't make us all leaders, but it can teach us which leader to follow.
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She luxuriated in these disembodied telephone conversations. “Darling, I can almost see you, almost touch you now.” It was intimate yet distant; thrilling yet safe.
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I’ve been a good mother,” she said. It was a plea rather than an affirmation.
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This is just the first day; you’ll get used to it. The rewards will come later, from the kids themselves–and from the unlikeliest ones.
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Do not weep, do not weep, my little wife: song of hope and encouragement in marriage.
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Their evenings were interminable; their Sundays were like their evenings.
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To the young ones she would say bravely that her husband did not love her, but that she could never, never hurt him.
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Your blouse is whitening on the chair and your parrot Flaubert weeps in French: she left him, and he is sorry.
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Wrrite, wrrite, Lapochka, why you don’t wrrite?” and assure me that a horse, even with four legs, stumbles. I found it difficult to explain to her what I was writing. “It’s about Colley Cibber,” I said. “He was an actor, playwright and poet.” “Also poet?” Varya asked suspiciously. “Who he? Pushkin?”
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I’ll never retire as long as I live—that’s like retiring from life! I’ll never stop writing, teaching, lecturing. If you’re in good health, living is exciting on its own.
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It was only after her marriage that she had learned to create the illusion of beauty, which is, perhaps, more difficult to achieve than beauty itself.
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St. Peter: “Who is knocking at my gate?” Voice: “It is I.” St. Peter: “Go away, we don’t need any more school teachers here!
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That sense of power was all she craved.
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A life to live is not a field to cross; yet, somehow, in her chaotic way, Varya was able to keep the house going.
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Funny, how once you touched off a memory, it was like pulling out a stitch—all the others kept unraveling.
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I want to point the way to something that should forever lure them, when the TV set is broken and the movie is over and the school bell has rung for the last time.
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Education is not a product: mark, diploma, job, money-in that order; it is a process, a never-ending one.
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She used to think of it vaguely as “We don’t get along,” but it wasn’t even that. There were no clashes or quarrels between them, no question of infidelity. He certainly wasn’t the type for an affair, and at forty-eight, her hair graying and her figure gone, she had resigned herself to weary middle age. It was just that together, bleakly confronted with each other, they experienced a vast and hopeless boredom.