Bessel van der Kolk Quotes

Our relationship maps are implicit, etched into the emotional brain and not reversible simply by understanding how they were created. You may realize that your fear of intimacy has something to do with your mother’s postpartum depression or with the fact that she herself was molested as a child, but that alone is unlikely to open you to happy, trusting engagement with others.

Bessel van der Kolk

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• We will always make music, but Die Antwoord is... finite.

  

  Watkin Tudor Jones
  • Music
  • Die
  • Always

• I just let the songs tell me what to do - they are my guides, and they are the boss. So I am subservient to the songs, and I let them tell me what to do. I don't judge them; I just write whatever comes to me.

  

  Valerie June
  • Judge
  • Songs
  • Boss

• I asked my parents for permission to study in America and they were so sure that I wouldn't get in and get a scholarship that they encouraged me to try. So I applied to Yale and got an excellent scholarship. I then worked for the Boston Consulting Group for six and half years.

  

  Indra Nooyi
  • America
  • Parents
  • Worked

• I've done thousands of interviews in my life, and it's a format that I quite enjoy, because I think of questions in interviews as an opportunity to sort of gauge my growth in a way. It gives me an idea of how I'm navigating this world that I'm in.

  

  Ian MacKaye
  • Life
  • World
  • Done

• I am also one of those persons who were transformed, who grew out of the Soviet system and transformed myself into the new Russia.

  

  Vagit Alekperov
  • System
  • Russia
  • Soviet

• It's fine when you careen off disasters and terrifyingly bad reviews and rejection and all that stuff when you're young; your resilience is just terrific.

  

  Harold Prince
  • Bad
  • Rejection
  • Resilience

• You know, it's always good to have seen a track before, just to kind of know where the little bumps are here and there, and just the general feel for the size.

  

  Danica Patrick
  • Good
  • Know
  • Size

• If you force legislators to balance, at the end of the day, if it has to be balanced, then they step up and they become legislators and can find out where to cut.

  

  Rand Paul
  • Up
  • Day
  • Balance

• I like shopping at retail places like JC Penney or Macy's, and maybe buying a top or a shirt, and then buying a skirt from Rue 21 or Forever 21 because they have the maxi skirts, which I appreciate so much, and then topping it off with something that I buy from a Somali shop.

  

  Halima Aden
  • Forever
  • Appreciate
  • Shopping

• We have shown that Islam can rule the world perfectly for 14 centuries, and during this time of Muslim power we did not borrow ideas like democracy from others, so why do we need to learn democracy from them now?

  

  Abu Bakar Bashir
  • Time
  • World
  • Why

• I've got that Beethoven energy, that Stravinsky energy. And it's all a gift from the Creator.

  

  Wadada Leo Smith
  • Energy
  • Gift
  • Creator

• Touring is an incredibly isolated situation. I don't know how people tour for years on end. You find a lot of people who can't stop touring, and it's because they don't know how to come back into life. It's sort of unreal.

  

  Kate Bush
  • People
  • Life
  • Stop

• There's nothing harder than defining oneself.

  

  Yitzhak Rabin
  • Nothing
  • Harder
  • Than

• I always said that if I could just find a guy who could chop wood and had a nice smile, it wouldn't bother me if he was a thug or an aristocrat, as long as he was a good guy. And I've ended up with an educated thug.

  

  Sade Adu
  • Good
  • Guy
  • Nice

• I like to be quiet, and let people find me rather than having to shout at them.

  

  Larry David
  • People
  • Me
  • Find

• I fear God and next to God I mostly fear them that fear him not.

  

  Saadi
  • God
  • Fear
  • Him

• Many people still believe that 'green' solutions are too expensive, but they are actually much cheaper when all of the costs to public health, social services, and waste handling are factored into the same equation.

  

  Majora Carter
  • People
  • Believe
  • Health

• The stuff that I find really intriguing is always how do ordinary people behave in extraordinary circumstances. And that's why we have a lot of cop shows and lawyer shows and medical shows is that you're looking for situations that just always heighten the stakes.

  

  Zeljko Ivanek
  • People
  • Why
  • Lawyer

• In actuality, no one ever sank so deep that he could not sink deeper, and there may be one or many who sank deeper. So it is always possible to be happy and grateful that things are not worse!

  

  Soren Kierkegaard
  • Happy
  • Worse
  • Sink

• People can be inspired the way I've been inspired by music.

  

  Talib Kweli Black Star
  • People
  • Music
  • Way

• If the guitar synthesizer is really going to stand as a synthesizer on its own, it needs to develop a more characteristic sound; I don' think it's gotten there yet.

  

  Andy Summers The Police

• Man is a real man, and can live and act manfully in this world, not in the strength of opinions, not according to what he thinks, but according to what he is.

  

  James Anthony Froude
  • World
  • Live
  • Real

• Our relationship maps are implicit, etched into the emotional brain and not reversible simply by understanding how they were created. You may realize that your fear of intimacy has something to do with your mother’s postpartum depression or with the fact that she herself was molested as a child, but that alone is unlikely to open you to happy, trusting engagement with others.

  

  Bessel van der Kolk
  • Happy
  • Relationship
  • Child