Bessel van der Kolk Quotes
The internal system of an abuse victim differs from the non-abuse system with regard to the consistent absence of the effective leadership, the extreme rules under which the parts function, and the absenve of any consistent balance or harmony. Typically, the parts operate around outdated assumptions and beliefs derived from the childhood abuse, believing, for example, that it is still extremely dangerous to reveal secrets about childhood experiences which were endured.
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I was brought up in a very poor and very violent household. I spent much of my childhood being afraid.
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That's maybe the most important thing each generation does, is to break a lot of rules and make up their own way of doing things.
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My understanding of films was just as much as any young girl who watches Bollywood films. I had no idea about the whole process of filmmaking, about dialogue writing, scripts, screenplay etc. I had probably gone to two or three film shoots in my childhood.
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My childhood and adolescence were filled with visiting scientists from both India and abroad, many of whom would stay with us. A life of science struck me as being both interesting and particularly international in its character.
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I think fractures in your childhood make you observe the world more as an outsider. Possibly it pushes you outside.
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I had envisioned doing comedy since childhood. For sure.
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There are three rules for writing a novel. Unfortunately, no one knows what they are.
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Fear rules almost every newsroom in the country.
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I got my green card and everything through my work, even before marriage or anything like that, so you really have to follow the rules and do everything the right way to be able to accomplish that, so it was big... I had my green card for so long.
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We are protecting Europe according to European rules that say borders can be crossed only in certain areas in a controlled way and after registration.
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When I saw Bryan Singer's 'Usual Suspects,' I knew how it was going to end because I'd seen 'Scary Movie.' Which is not the preferred order of things, but that's how it is because my childhood was 'Home Alone,' 'Matilda,' 'Batman Returns,' 'Jumanji,' 'Secret Garden,' 'Jack,' 'Mrs. Doubtfire,' 'Titanic.' Only family films from the '90s.
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I had a really lovely childhood, but I wasn't the easiest kid to live with.
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I'd love to own Newstead, partly because it belonged to Lord Byron, but also to try to uncover what dark secrets really lie beneath.
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I have never - I have never let go of my childhood contacts. My best friends from childhood are still my best friends.
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I like to play by my own rules.
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I do hear from people at my exhibition about seeing these things made from this toy from their childhood, and it brings them back. They'll go and buy a set of Lego from the gift shop because of that nostalgia and seeing it at the art exhibition.
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I think, I would guess most people keep secrets.
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When I think of my childhood, I see my mother, the complete sixties parent, decked in purple frappe silk caftans, the acidic smell of newly stripped pine mingling with incense.
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You give up your childhood. You miss proms and games and high-school events, and people say it's awful... I say it was a good trade. You miss something but I think I gained more than I lost.
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The men couldn't understand how I could be so successful and so insecure at the same time - because it doesn't really exist in the same way in the male psyche.
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It is a natural virtue incident to our sex to be pitiful of those that are afflicted.
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I have learned that frustration is allowed and talking it through is necessary.
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I'm really laid back but I still like to dress up sometimes.
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The internal system of an abuse victim differs from the non-abuse system with regard to the consistent absence of the effective leadership, the extreme rules under which the parts function, and the absenve of any consistent balance or harmony. Typically, the parts operate around outdated assumptions and beliefs derived from the childhood abuse, believing, for example, that it is still extremely dangerous to reveal secrets about childhood experiences which were endured.
