Warren Farrell Quotes
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Solutions: (...) Seek an understanding of the other sex's best intent.
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I could be a much better role model by sharing more openly with him my shadow side, my faults, my mistakes, asking him to be my teacher rather than being his.
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From these biased studies come biased social policy. Hundreds of millions of dollars to enforce sanctions against fathers who don’t pay mothers; almost nothing to enforce sanctions against mothers who don’t allow fathers to see children.
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When divorces meant marriage no longer provided security for a lifetime, women adjusted by focusing on careers as empowerment. But when the sacrifice of a career met the sacrifices in a career, the fantasy of a career became the reality of trade-offs. Women developed career ambivalence.
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The belief that men don’t need help is part of the problem.
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A man cannot tell whether a woman is in love with him or his security blanket until she is financially and psychologically independent enough to leave. Until a woman has learned how to leave, even she cannot be sure she has learned to love.
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Survey 2001: Men who never married, never had a child, worked full time and were college educated earn only 85% of what women with the same criteria earn.
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When only men could register to vote, we required only men to register for the draft. Today both sexes can vote, but only men must register for the draft.
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Our choice of partners is one of the clearest statements about our choice of values.
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It is often said that women are a civilizing balance to the innately warlike male. By taking care of the killing for women it could be said that men civilized women. When survival was the issue, men killing to protect what women bore was the male form of nurturance.
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Nothing threatens a father’s involvement in the family more than his obligation to be the family’s 'financial womb,' creating 'The Father’s ‘Catch-22’': loving the family by being away from the family. It is the irony of traditional fatherhood: being a father by not being a father.
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Perhaps the biggest appreciation adjustment we need is toward the millions of men and women we call stepparents. We have taken for granted especially the stepparents who are raising no children of their own, and receiving no income from a significant other, but who have nevertheless chosen to invest love, time and money in children.
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Together, we came to understand how we beg men to express feelings, but then when men do express feelings, we call it sexism, male chauvinism, or backlash.
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We cannot think of dads as being nurturing if we think of men as being self-serving.
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If my parents had made love a tenth of a second earlier or later, I wouldn’t exist. What an enormous miracle, just being given life.
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I feel awed by the mystery of being both so finite and yet so infinite, so much and so little, so conscious and yet, so coincidental.
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During what years should a child be introduced to better ways of giving and receiving criticisms – to what I call 'relationship language'? Before school age. The best teacher? Parents.
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When a government requires a man to support a child he was tricked into creating, that government subsidizes fraud. No. It is worse than that: It subsidizes the woman using a man’s body for 18-21 years without his consent.
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When I feel very loved, when I nurture and support people, my experience is deepened. I feel connected to a larger purpose and meaning.
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Tone of voice is more crucial than words.
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The less our sons our trusted, the less women are able to really love them, and the more women feel entitled to use them as wallets.
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If a female employee is offended, a boss would like her to tell him, not sue him.
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Men learn to call pain 'glory'; women learn to call the police.
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Our children are better served by speaking not of 'visitation' versus 'custody,' but of 'parent time.'