Warren Farrell Quotes
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If we penalize mothers for denial of 'visitation time' we must also penalize fathers who don’t show up for 'visitation time.' The issue is not fathers’ rights to visitation time, but both parents obligations to their children. The issue is how to make both parents real parents despite what parenting was never designed to deal with - divorce.
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We are the offspring of approval-seekers. We want approval so badly that we vacillate between conforming to get it and standing out (being outstanding) to get it.
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Only when a woman shares male risks can she really begin to understand men.
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Solutions: (...) Seek an understanding of the other sex's best intent.
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Implicit in the Hollywood formula of mom-by-option and dad-by-default is mom never at fault...to a fault.
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There is little life where no one will listen. These are fathers, sons and families who are needlessly lost.
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ITEM: The Mike Tyson trial. The hotel in which the jury is sequestered goes ablaze. Two firefighters die saving its occupants. The trial of Mike Tyson made us increasingly aware of men-as-rapists. The firefighters' deaths did not make us increasingly aware of men-as-saviors. We were more aware of one man doing harm than of two men saving...
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When I feel very loved, when I nurture and support people, my experience is deepened. I feel connected to a larger purpose and meaning.
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A man cannot tell whether a woman is in love with him or his security blanket until she is financially and psychologically independent enough to leave. Until a woman has learned how to leave, even she cannot be sure she has learned to love.
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Tone of voice is more crucial than words.
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Unemployment to a man is the psychological equivalent of rape to a woman.
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Laws are made with such attention to protecting women that, if a man's constitutional rights conflict with a woman's protection, his rights disintegrate before her protection disintegrates.
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Nothing threatens a father’s involvement in the family more than his obligation to be the family’s 'financial womb,' creating 'The Father’s ‘Catch-22’': loving the family by being away from the family. It is the irony of traditional fatherhood: being a father by not being a father.
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How can I call security a woman's primary fantasy if I am saying it is also her primary need? Because while her primary need is the security of a home and a family circle, her primary fantasy is that someone else will earn enough to pay for them. Hence the focus of 2 billion women on the latest royal wedding.
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Together, we came to understand how we beg men to express feelings, but then when men do express feelings, we call it sexism, male chauvinism, or backlash.
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If we believe that it is predominantly men who batter women, it is hard to see why women also need to change: We will continue saying, 'Just change the men. They’re the batterers.'
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Our children are better served by speaking not of 'visitation' versus 'custody,' but of 'parent time.'
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Sexual harassment legislation feels unfair to men because if they sued over an ethnic joke, or over a woman discussing pornography or asking them out, they’d be laughed out of the company.
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After divorce, women’s biggest fear is economic deprivation; men’s biggest fear is emotional deprivation.
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I could be a much better role model by sharing more openly with him my shadow side, my faults, my mistakes, asking him to be my teacher rather than being his.
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I am always someone who follows the research more than my self-interest. It certainly has not been in my self-interest to defend men. I've gone from being quite wealthy, when I was defending women, to being quite poor defending men.
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The less our sons our trusted, the less women are able to really love them, and the more women feel entitled to use them as wallets.
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When women are at the height of their beauty power and exercise it, we call it marriage. When men are at the height of their success power and exercise it, we call it a mid-life crisis.
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A man fears that conflict with his wife will lead to less intimacy, not more intimacy.