Warren Farrell Quotes
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By attending to the conscious part of ourselves, we contribute to the peace of others as well as ourselves.
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If we believe that it is predominantly men who batter women, it is hard to see why women also need to change: We will continue saying, 'Just change the men. They’re the batterers.'
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From these biased studies come biased social policy. Hundreds of millions of dollars to enforce sanctions against fathers who don’t pay mothers; almost nothing to enforce sanctions against mothers who don’t allow fathers to see children.
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When divorces meant marriage no longer provided security for a lifetime, women adjusted by focusing on careers as empowerment. But when the sacrifice of a career met the sacrifices in a career, the fantasy of a career became the reality of trade-offs. Women developed career ambivalence.
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When only men could register to vote, we required only men to register for the draft. Today both sexes can vote, but only men must register for the draft.
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The worst form anger can take is that of a parent who feels her or his chance for 'winning my child' is enhanced by 'ruining my ex.' The law has given the most vindictive parent an invitation to play the 'abuse' card. This is the 'Great Temptation.'
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For me, the massiveness of what I don’t know is one way I experience God. It creates in me a feeling of humility and a sense of gratitude.
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I feel awed by the mystery of being both so finite and yet so infinite, so much and so little, so conscious and yet, so coincidental.
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Students coming from father-present families score higher in math and science even when they come from weaker schools.
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A family that knows how to play together has the tools to stay together.
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Our choice of partners is perhaps the clearest single statement of our choice of values. Therefore, when we blame our partner for anything, we should really be confronting ourselves. Not as in 'Yes, I made a bad choice,' but as in 'How does this choice reflect my values?'
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Nothing threatens a father’s involvement in the family more than his obligation to be the family’s 'financial womb,' creating 'The Father’s ‘Catch-22’': loving the family by being away from the family. It is the irony of traditional fatherhood: being a father by not being a father.
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Perhaps the biggest appreciation adjustment we need is toward the millions of men and women we call stepparents. We have taken for granted especially the stepparents who are raising no children of their own, and receiving no income from a significant other, but who have nevertheless chosen to invest love, time and money in children.
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I could be a much better role model by sharing more openly with him my shadow side, my faults, my mistakes, asking him to be my teacher rather than being his.
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During what years should a child be introduced to better ways of giving and receiving criticisms – to what I call 'relationship language'? Before school age. The best teacher? Parents.
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Survey 2001: Men who never married, never had a child, worked full time and were college educated earn only 85% of what women with the same criteria earn.
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When a government requires a man to support a child he was tricked into creating, that government subsidizes fraud. No. It is worse than that: It subsidizes the woman using a man’s body for 18-21 years without his consent.
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If a female employee is offended, a boss would like her to tell him, not sue him.
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We cannot think of dads as being nurturing if we think of men as being self-serving.
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The less our sons our trusted, the less women are able to really love them, and the more women feel entitled to use them as wallets.
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The belief that men don’t need help is part of the problem.
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Men learn to call pain 'glory'; women learn to call the police.
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When I feel very loved, when I nurture and support people, my experience is deepened. I feel connected to a larger purpose and meaning.
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Together, we came to understand how we beg men to express feelings, but then when men do express feelings, we call it sexism, male chauvinism, or backlash.