Warren Farrell Quotes
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Our choice of partners is one of the clearest statements about our choice of values.
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Survey 2001: Men who never married, never had a child, worked full time and were college educated earn only 85% of what women with the same criteria earn.
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Because of the feminist perspective, we have gotten a view of the world that is distorted.
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The nature of men’s responsibilities distanced men from feelings, whereas the nature of women’s responsibilities encouraged the expression of feelings.
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From these biased studies come biased social policy. Hundreds of millions of dollars to enforce sanctions against fathers who don’t pay mothers; almost nothing to enforce sanctions against mothers who don’t allow fathers to see children.
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Our choice of partners is perhaps the clearest single statement of our choice of values. Therefore, when we blame our partner for anything, we should really be confronting ourselves. Not as in 'Yes, I made a bad choice,' but as in 'How does this choice reflect my values?'
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Men learn to call pain 'glory'; women learn to call the police.
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When a government requires a man to support a child he was tricked into creating, that government subsidizes fraud. No. It is worse than that: It subsidizes the woman using a man’s body for 18-21 years without his consent.
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By attending to the conscious part of ourselves, we contribute to the peace of others as well as ourselves.
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Nothing threatens a father’s involvement in the family more than his obligation to be the family’s 'financial womb,' creating 'The Father’s ‘Catch-22’': loving the family by being away from the family. It is the irony of traditional fatherhood: being a father by not being a father.
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If we believe that it is predominantly men who batter women, it is hard to see why women also need to change: We will continue saying, 'Just change the men. They’re the batterers.'
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When women's consciousness was raised, women ended up seeing housework as their shit work ; when men's consciousness is raised, risking sexual rejection will be seen as the male shit work .
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If a female employee is offended, a boss would like her to tell him, not sue him.
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During what years should a child be introduced to better ways of giving and receiving criticisms – to what I call 'relationship language'? Before school age. The best teacher? Parents.
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How can I call security a woman's primary fantasy if I am saying it is also her primary need? Because while her primary need is the security of a home and a family circle, her primary fantasy is that someone else will earn enough to pay for them. Hence the focus of 2 billion women on the latest royal wedding.
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Students coming from father-present families score higher in math and science even when they come from weaker schools.
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All defensive responses to criticism are natural. (It is natural to think of our own perspective before someone else’s.)
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The belief that men don’t need help is part of the problem.
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When only men could register to vote, we required only men to register for the draft. Today both sexes can vote, but only men must register for the draft.
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The less our sons our trusted, the less women are able to really love them, and the more women feel entitled to use them as wallets.
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I am always someone who follows the research more than my self-interest. It certainly has not been in my self-interest to defend men. I've gone from being quite wealthy, when I was defending women, to being quite poor defending men.
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When I feel very loved, when I nurture and support people, my experience is deepened. I feel connected to a larger purpose and meaning.
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A family that knows how to play together has the tools to stay together.
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I could be a much better role model by sharing more openly with him my shadow side, my faults, my mistakes, asking him to be my teacher rather than being his.