Warren Farrell Quotes
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To me, God is the accumulated wisdom I've gathered throughout my life. When I pay attention, my body gives me a printout of this wisdom.
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Men will not change as long as women ‘marry up.’ Men won't change until we have a perspective on how powerless power makes us. A woman cannot help a man change until she has a perspective on how powerless power makes men.
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Ralph had lost real power by trying to gain the appearance of power. He was a leader. But he was following a program for leaders ; therefore, he was a follower... he was, as he put it, a high-level mediocre.
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Divorce laws have given women economic support after divorce; no laws have given men emotional support after divorce. Men are required to continue their obligations to their exes in the form of alimony or child support; women are not required to continue their obligation to their exes in the form of homemaking or nurturing.
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The worst form anger can take is that of a parent who feels her or his chance for 'winning my child' is enhanced by 'ruining my ex.' The law has given the most vindictive parent an invitation to play the 'abuse' card. This is the 'Great Temptation.'
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Being forced into early retirement can be to a man what being 'given up for a younger woman' is for a woman.
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Options allow a woman to tailor her role to her personality, but if a man expects to provide well, he expects to wear a suit, not to wear what suits him.
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Alan Alda is loved not because he's sensitive, but because he's successful and sensitive.
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We cannot think of dads as being nurturing if we think of men as being self-serving.
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The belief that men don’t need help is part of the problem.
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The most frequent way men are raped by adult women is 'birth control rape.'
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Those feminists who say that masculinity is about men believing they can batter women display the deepest ignorance possible about men and masculinity.
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If we believe that it is predominantly men who batter women, it is hard to see why women also need to change: We will continue saying, 'Just change the men. They’re the batterers.'
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What is the impact on our children of this international 'Sisterhood is Victimhood' bonding?
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Contract killings never get recorded as a woman killing a man.
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Women-in-jeopardy movies are, in essence, the updated versions of men dying to save the princess from the dragon to earn her love. They are modern-day training films for teaching women to select the best protectors while weeding out the rest.
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How can I call security a woman's primary fantasy if I am saying it is also her primary need? Because while her primary need is the security of a home and a family circle, her primary fantasy is that someone else will earn enough to pay for them. Hence the focus of 2 billion women on the latest royal wedding.
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During what years should a child be introduced to better ways of giving and receiving criticisms – to what I call 'relationship language'? Before school age. The best teacher? Parents.
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When a woman appears to express fear, we cannot assure her without at least releasing her from responsibility; when we interpret the same emotion in a man as anger, we want to blame him and be certain he acknowledges responsibility. We want to find her guiltless; we want to find him guilty.
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Nothing threatens a father’s involvement in the family more than his obligation to be the family’s 'financial womb,' creating 'The Father’s ‘Catch-22’': loving the family by being away from the family. It is the irony of traditional fatherhood: being a father by not being a father.
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I am always someone who follows the research more than my self-interest. It certainly has not been in my self-interest to defend men. I've gone from being quite wealthy, when I was defending women, to being quite poor defending men.
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When women are at the height of their beauty power and exercise it, we call it marriage. When men are at the height of their success power and exercise it, we call it a mid-life crisis.
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Solutions: (...) Seek an understanding of the other sex's best intent.
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A man cannot tell whether a woman is in love with him or his security blanket until she is financially and psychologically independent enough to leave. Until a woman has learned how to leave, even she cannot be sure she has learned to love.