Warren Farrell Quotes
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In America and in most of the industrialized world, men are coming to be thought of by feminists in very much the same way that Jews were thought of by early Nazis. The comparison is overwhelmingly scary.
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So while in men’s magazines success is a power tool to get sex and love, and therefore the look of success is crucial, in women’s magazines love and sex are power tools to get success-and therefore both the look of love and the sexual tease/promise are crucial.
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If an employer had to pay a man one dollar for the same work a woman could do for 59 cents, why would anyone hire a man?
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Teaching the child to treat boundaries seriously teaches the child to respect the rights and needs of others. Thinking of another’s needs creates empathy.
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Employers are NOT prohibited from practicing sex discrimination in hiring and promoting employees.
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We are the offspring of approval-seekers. We want approval so badly that we vacillate between conforming to get it and standing out (being outstanding) to get it.
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We often hear that mothers do the caring; fathers just do the playing. This is a false dichotomy - even a dangerous one - because fathers’ particular style of play involves both a conscious focus on teaching and, as the research is now showing, is instructive to children even when it is not consciously designed to be so.
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Divorces led to bodies of men (called legislatures) protecting women collectively as other men (called husbands) failed to protect women individually.
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Myth. Rape is a manifestation of male political and economic power. Fact. Any given black man is three times as likely to be reported a rapist as a white man. Do blacks suddenly have more political and economic power? Maybe rape does not derive from power, but rather from powerlessness.
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On a deeper level, if our sons are learning they are obscene, disgusting, and untrustworthy, is this the best preparation for fatherhood? And is it the best preparation for becoming a mother - to feel this way about her son?
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The United States follows the pattern of men taking the financial risks even within a given field. Women physicians are three times as likely as men to work for the government or an HMO; men physicians are much more likely to be self-employed in a solo practice.
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My first conflict with NOW erupted in the mid-’70s when NOW chapters increasingly rejected father involvement by rejecting shared parent time as the preferred arrangement after divorce.
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On an unconscious level, the demonization of sexuality usually implies the demonization of males and the victimization of females.
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One grand fallacy of the women's movement: Expecting work to mean 'power' and 'self-fulfillment.'
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Sexual harassment legislation feels unfair to men because if they sued over an ethnic joke, or over a woman discussing pornography or asking them out, they’d be laughed out of the company.
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In the past, socializing men to become the best killer-protectors led to the survival of the 'fittest.' In the future, with nuclear technology, training killers is more likely to lead to the destruction of everyone.
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From the male perspective, when commitment is associated with diamonds and mortgages, promises of love can feel like promises of payment.
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A man cannot tell whether a woman is in love with him or his security blanket until she is financially and psychologically independent enough to leave. Until a woman has learned how to leave, even she cannot be sure she has learned to love.
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Women attempt suicide more often because they want to become the priority of those they love rather than always prioritizing them.
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A mother’s traditional role prepared her to love her family by being with the family she loved.
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Even men who share their personal experiences find that, instead of empathy, they get the response Dear Abby gave this man: 'Women have it worse.' This belief is so strong that over the past quarter century, women’s old fantasy of marrying a man-as-protector has been tainted by women’s new nightmare of husband-as-batterer.
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When women entered the workplace, many men were mentors to them and, in turn, also learned to respect women’s unique contributions (for example, their listening and facilitative skills). Now, as we give men responsibilities to care for children, women must be among the mentors, and we must also learn to respect men’s unique contributions.
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Laws are made with such attention to protecting women that, if a man's constitutional rights conflict with a woman's protection, his rights disintegrate before her protection disintegrates.
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We often think that when a man insults another man by calling him a 'girl,' the insult reflects a contempt for women. No. It reflects a contempt for any man who is unwilling to make himself strong enough to protect someone as precious as a woman.