Warren Farrell Quotes
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The more our children see men being paid to take responsibility for children, the more respectable it will be for men to do work compatible with their role as dads.
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Men’s pay paid women to love and nurture, to connect and feel. To be nurturer-connectors. In contrast, men received their pay by being some form of killer-protector. By becoming a human doing (a captain or a coal miner), not a human being (a person who feels happy or sad).
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Many black men leave because they are financially responsible-not because they are emotionally irresponsible.
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No movement calls migrant workers oppressed for providing money for women from whom they are receiving neither cooking nor cleaning; for providing their wives with homes while they sleep on the ground.
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In brief, our genetic heritage is at odds with our genetic future. For the first time in human history, the qualities it takes to survive as a species are compatible with the qualities it takes to love.
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Since no one is always right, always being right is really a role model for his children feeling inadequate.
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In America and in most of the industrialized world, men are coming to be thought of by feminists in very much the same way that Jews were thought of by early Nazis. The comparison is overwhelmingly scary.
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Employers are NOT prohibited from practicing sex discrimination in hiring and promoting employees.
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When a parent denies a child its 'parent time,' that parent is denying the child its child support - its psychological child support.
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On a deeper level, if our sons are learning they are obscene, disgusting, and untrustworthy, is this the best preparation for fatherhood? And is it the best preparation for becoming a mother - to feel this way about her son?
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There is little life where no one will listen. These are fathers, sons and families who are needlessly lost.
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Being forced into early retirement can be to a man what being 'given up for a younger woman' is for a woman.
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In a democracy, a government’s policies are rarely questioned until the underlying assumptions that create them are questioned.
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Programs like TANF (Temporary Assistance to Needy Families, formerly known as AFDC) and WIC (Women, Infants, and Children) subsidize the exclusion of dads. In effect, they create, as we have seen, future welfare recipients. Or tax spenders.
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We often think that when a man insults another man by calling him a 'girl,' the insult reflects a contempt for women. No. It reflects a contempt for any man who is unwilling to make himself strong enough to protect someone as precious as a woman.
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We need to fund relationship language in our schools so that future parents will know how to communicate about whether they want children; to communicate with the children they have, and teach their children how to communicate with the world. Technical progress without social skills is a Tower of Babel.
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The ridicule is pressure to consider ourselves less important than someone even more precious: A baby is more precious than a mother; a woman is more precious than a man.
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My first conflict with NOW erupted in the mid-’70s when NOW chapters increasingly rejected father involvement by rejecting shared parent time as the preferred arrangement after divorce.
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Myth. Rape is a manifestation of male political and economic power. Fact. Any given black man is three times as likely to be reported a rapist as a white man. Do blacks suddenly have more political and economic power? Maybe rape does not derive from power, but rather from powerlessness.
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During what years should a child be introduced to better ways of giving and receiving criticisms – to what I call 'relationship language'? Before school age. The best teacher? Parents.
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After divorce, women’s biggest fear is economic deprivation; men’s biggest fear is emotional deprivation.
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The worst form anger can take is that of a parent who feels her or his chance for 'winning my child' is enhanced by 'ruining my ex.' The law has given the most vindictive parent an invitation to play the 'abuse' card. This is the 'Great Temptation.'
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Together, we came to understand how we beg men to express feelings, but then when men do express feelings, we call it sexism, male chauvinism, or backlash.
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Divorces led to bodies of men (called legislatures) protecting women collectively as other men (called husbands) failed to protect women individually.