Warren Farrell Quotes
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ITEM: The Mike Tyson trial. The hotel in which the jury is sequestered goes ablaze. Two firefighters die saving its occupants. The trial of Mike Tyson made us increasingly aware of men-as-rapists. The firefighters' deaths did not make us increasingly aware of men-as-saviors. We were more aware of one man doing harm than of two men saving...
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Programs like TANF (Temporary Assistance to Needy Families, formerly known as AFDC) and WIC (Women, Infants, and Children) subsidize the exclusion of dads. In effect, they create, as we have seen, future welfare recipients. Or tax spenders.
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Women's greater social desirability and beauty power afford opportunities for creating both measurable and invisible income. While the opportunities are available to almost all women and some men, they are available in abundance to the genetic celebrity ... a woman so beautiful that men do more than look and talk-they follow her.
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Divorces led to bodies of men (called legislatures) protecting women collectively as other men (called husbands) failed to protect women individually.
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We are the offspring of approval-seekers. We want approval so badly that we vacillate between conforming to get it and standing out (being outstanding) to get it.
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A man fears that conflict with his wife will lead to less intimacy, not more intimacy.
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Women attempt suicide more often because they want to become the priority of those they love rather than always prioritizing them.
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When we speak of mom winning custody or of dad getting visitation time, we speak of someone winning, someone losing. When we speak of mom or dad spending 'parent time' with a child, we speak of two parents, not a parent versus a visitor.
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The United States follows the pattern of men taking the financial risks even within a given field. Women physicians are three times as likely as men to work for the government or an HMO; men physicians are much more likely to be self-employed in a solo practice.
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Even men who share their personal experiences find that, instead of empathy, they get the response Dear Abby gave this man: 'Women have it worse.' This belief is so strong that over the past quarter century, women’s old fantasy of marrying a man-as-protector has been tainted by women’s new nightmare of husband-as-batterer.
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We often hear that mothers do the caring; fathers just do the playing. This is a false dichotomy - even a dangerous one - because fathers’ particular style of play involves both a conscious focus on teaching and, as the research is now showing, is instructive to children even when it is not consciously designed to be so.
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One grand fallacy of the women's movement: Expecting work to mean 'power' and 'self-fulfillment.'
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My first conflict with NOW erupted in the mid-’70s when NOW chapters increasingly rejected father involvement by rejecting shared parent time as the preferred arrangement after divorce.
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Divorce laws have given women economic support after divorce; no laws have given men emotional support after divorce. Men are required to continue their obligations to their exes in the form of alimony or child support; women are not required to continue their obligation to their exes in the form of homemaking or nurturing.
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Helping women achieve higher pay is a core goal of this book.
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A mother’s traditional role prepared her to love her family by being with the family she loved.
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Sexual harassment legislation feels unfair to men because if they sued over an ethnic joke, or over a woman discussing pornography or asking them out, they’d be laughed out of the company.
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It is often said that women are a civilizing balance to the innately warlike male. By taking care of the killing for women it could be said that men civilized women. When survival was the issue, men killing to protect what women bore was the male form of nurturance.
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On an unconscious level, the demonization of sexuality usually implies the demonization of males and the victimization of females.
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In 1969, nationwide, female professors who had never been married and never published earned 145% of their counterpart male colleagues.
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When women are at the height of their beauty power and exercise it, we call it marriage. When men are at the height of their success power and exercise it, we call it a mid-life crisis.
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So while in men’s magazines success is a power tool to get sex and love, and therefore the look of success is crucial, in women’s magazines love and sex are power tools to get success-and therefore both the look of love and the sexual tease/promise are crucial.
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Dads in the family are even more important than women in the workplace: The workplace benefits from women, but the family needs dads.
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The most frequent way men are raped by adult women is 'birth control rape.'