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So while in men’s magazines success is a power tool to get sex and love, and therefore the look of success is crucial, in women’s magazines love and sex are power tools to get success-and therefore both the look of love and the sexual tease/promise are crucial.
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My first conflict with NOW erupted in the mid-’70s when NOW chapters increasingly rejected father involvement by rejecting shared parent time as the preferred arrangement after divorce.
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Sexual harassment legislation feels unfair to men because if they sued over an ethnic joke, or over a woman discussing pornography or asking them out, they’d be laughed out of the company.
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When a parent denies a child its 'parent time,' that parent is denying the child its child support - its psychological child support.
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No movement calls migrant workers oppressed for providing money for women from whom they are receiving neither cooking nor cleaning; for providing their wives with homes while they sleep on the ground.
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We are all gifted of the mouth, retarded of the ear.
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Dads in the family are even more important than women in the workplace: The workplace benefits from women, but the family needs dads.
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Ideally there should not be a men’s movement but a gender transition movement; only the power of the women’s movement necessitates the temporary corrective of a men’s movement. And this creates a special challenge for men: There are few political movements filled with healthy people, yet few healthy changes have occurred without political movements.
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We are at a unique moment in history - when a woman’s body is affected, we say the choice is hers; but when a boy’s body is affected, we say the choice is not his - the law requires our 18 year old sons to register for the draft, and therefore potential death-if-needed.
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When we look at the pay of men and women who do work equal hours, two discoveries are quite astonishing: -When women and men work less than 40 hours a week, the women earn more than the men; -When men and women work more than 40, the men earn more than the women.
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If we are to inspire men to father it also helps to stop reflexively condemning men as afraid of commitment and address what they are afraid of. –page246.
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If a woman isn't being hazed, she's not being tested; therefore, she is not being trusted.
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Our focus on discrimination against women during the past 30 years has blinded us to opportunities for women.
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Killing the criticizer, then, is part of our evolutionary past; listening in response to criticism is part of our evolutionary future.
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One grand fallacy of the women's movement: Expecting work to mean 'power' and 'self-fulfillment.'
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On an unconscious level, the demonization of sexuality usually implies the demonization of males and the victimization of females.
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From the male perspective, when commitment is associated with diamonds and mortgages, promises of love can feel like promises of payment.
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When we give trust, we receive trust. And people who trust us pay attention to us.
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There is little life where no one will listen. These are fathers, sons and families who are needlessly lost.
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In the past, socializing men to become the best killer-protectors led to the survival of the 'fittest.' In the future, with nuclear technology, training killers is more likely to lead to the destruction of everyone.
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In the future, women will increasingly want nurturer-connectors, since part of what he will be nurturing is her ability to protect herself.
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When women entered the workplace, many men were mentors to them and, in turn, also learned to respect women’s unique contributions (for example, their listening and facilitative skills). Now, as we give men responsibilities to care for children, women must be among the mentors, and we must also learn to respect men’s unique contributions.
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Sexual harassment legislation in its present form makes all men unequal to all women.
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We often think that when a man insults another man by calling him a 'girl,' the insult reflects a contempt for women. No. It reflects a contempt for any man who is unwilling to make himself strong enough to protect someone as precious as a woman.