Warren Farrell Quotes
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Contract killings never get recorded as a woman killing a man.
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When we hear men are the greater victims of crime, we tend to say, ‘Well, it’s men hurting other men.’ When we hear that blacks are the greater victims, we consider it racist to say, ‘Well, it’s blacks hurting blacks.’ The victim is a victim no matter who the perpetrator was.
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It evolved from my experience in the fifties, growing up during the McCarthy era, and hearing a lot of assumptions that America was wonderful and Communism was terrible.
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Any guy who’s played team sports has practiced a skill I call 'team sport empathy': he’s practiced focusing on anticipating the other team’s moves. That means figuring out their way of looking at the situation.
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When we train men for war, we lose some part of every man we train - even if we win the war. When we train men to be better nurturers, even men who fail the course will have won. And so will every child they ever meet. Training men to love is a nation’s best investment.
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Men are not only women's unpaid bodyguards, they actually pay to be a woman's bodyguard.
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The more our children see men being paid to take responsibility for children, the more respectable it will be for men to do work compatible with their role as dads.
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The function of gossip is to create an 'in group' bond by creating an 'out group' enemy.
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In a Stage II world, in communities in which survival is mastered enough to create a balance with self-fulfillment, we have the option of 'relationship language' that nourishes the soul.
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The solution to all this is not criminalization but resocialization.
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As feminism made this transition from equal opportunity to unequal opportunism, I made my transition from supporter to critic. But in my inner psyche, there was no transition: I went from supporter of equality to supporter of equality.
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Men give the same lines to different women for the same reason women wear the same perfume for different men; we all try the things that work.
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Men’s pay paid women to love and nurture, to connect and feel. To be nurturer-connectors. In contrast, men received their pay by being some form of killer-protector. By becoming a human doing (a captain or a coal miner), not a human being (a person who feels happy or sad).
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What’s true is that everyone is uncomfortable with expressing anger and being critical. Anger and criticism generates rejection. And everyone hates rejection.
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Feminism justified female 'victim power' by convincing the world that we lived in a sexist, male-dominated, and patriarchal world.
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The first instinctive response to any criticism is a defensive response. (The quicker the response, the more defensive.)
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'Visitation' reflects the era of the absentee father; 'parent time' influences the re-emergence of the involved father. 'Visitation' reflects the destruction of the family; 'parent time' influences the reconstruction of the family. 'Parent time' influences an era that understands that as either parents loses, so lose the children.
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Teaching the child to treat boundaries seriously teaches the child to respect the rights and needs of others. Thinking of another’s needs creates empathy.
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Being forced into early retirement can be to a man what being 'given up for a younger woman' is for a woman.
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Unless a woman asks men out (the first time) as often as men ask her out, then the assertion He asked me out, therefore he pays is just a double jeopardy of the male role: he must not only do the asking, he must pay extra for risking extra rejection.
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Crime, especially crime involving money, reflects the gap between the expectation to provide and the ability to provide… If we really want men to commit crime as infrequently as women, we can start by not expecting men to provide for women more than we expect women to provide for men.
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We have entered 'The Era of the Three-Option Woman and the No-Option Man.'
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We are all gifted of the mouth, retarded of the ear.
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Many black men leave because they are financially responsible-not because they are emotionally irresponsible.