Warren Farrell Quotes
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Men have the influence and power in business and politics. It is the mother who can make the child's bedtime earlier, take away desserts or ground the child.
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Feminists often discuss women having two jobs: work and children. True. But no one discusses those divorced and remarried men who have three jobs: work, and two sets of children to nurture and financially support.
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When women hold off from marrying men, we call it independence. When men hold off from marrying women, we call it fear of commitment.
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For blacks in our society, victimization may be a true issue. But it isn't a true issue for women. Neither men nor women are victimized. The true issue, that I try to point out, is that both sexes suffer restricted roles.
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The problem is that Americans care more about saving whales than saving males.
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If you are a woman, you might feel torn between logical agreement and emotional resistance. Why? It seems like a simpler solution to blame men for the pay gap than to engineer your own bridge to higher pay.
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Social policy that reunites father and child must always confront itself with the question, 'Are we paying dads to stay, or to go away?' If a single mother receives more money when the father isn’t around than when he is around, there will be fewer fathers around. The government will become her substitute husband.
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Women will risk their lives to protect children, but rarely risk their lives to protect an adult man.
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The five different areas in which boys are in crisis - education; jobs; emotional health; physical health; and fatherlessness - are handled by different portions of the government.
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The worst aspect of dating from the perspective of many men is how dating can feel to a man like robbery by social custom – the social custom of him taking money out of his pocket, giving it to her, and calling it a date. To a young man, the worst dates feel like being robbed and rejected. Boys risk death to avoid rejection (e.g., by joining the Army)
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Divorce laws have given women economic support after divorce; no laws have given men emotional support after divorce. Men are required to continue their obligations to their exes in the form of alimony or child support; women are not required to continue their obligation to their exes in the form of homemaking or nurturing.
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No movement calls migrant workers oppressed for providing money for women from whom they are receiving neither cooking nor cleaning; for providing their wives with homes while they sleep on the ground.
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The function of gossip is to create an 'in group' bond by creating an 'out group' enemy.
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He gets sex, she gets sex; if that is considered unequal, no wonder men are afraid of commitment.
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Women's scars and rituals involved beauty (piercing ears and noses, binding feet, and wearing corsets); men's involved protecting women. In cultures in which physical strength is still the best way to protect women, as among the Dodos in Uganda, each time a man kills a man, he is awarded a ritual scar; the more scars, the more he is considered eligible.
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Programs like TANF (Temporary Assistance to Needy Families, formerly known as AFDC) and WIC (Women, Infants, and Children) subsidize the exclusion of dads. In effect, they create, as we have seen, future welfare recipients. Or tax spenders.
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We often hear that mothers do the caring; fathers just do the playing. This is a false dichotomy - even a dangerous one - because fathers’ particular style of play involves both a conscious focus on teaching and, as the research is now showing, is instructive to children even when it is not consciously designed to be so.
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Dads in the family are even more important than women in the workplace: The workplace benefits from women, but the family needs dads.
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Men make more money but have lower net worths.
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The United States follows the pattern of men taking the financial risks even within a given field. Women physicians are three times as likely as men to work for the government or an HMO; men physicians are much more likely to be self-employed in a solo practice.
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All societies that have survived have survived based on their ability to prepare their sons to be disposable, in war and at work-and therefore as dads.
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Teaching the child to treat boundaries seriously teaches the child to respect the rights and needs of others. Thinking of another’s needs creates empathy.
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From the male perspective, when commitment is associated with diamonds and mortgages, promises of love can feel like promises of payment.
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Our focus on discrimination against women during the past 30 years has blinded us to opportunities for women.