Warren Farrell Quotes
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With men, we blame the victim. We blame men because we have camouflaged men’s victimization by teaching men to also be the victimizer. Men’s victimizer status camouflages men’s victim status.
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What’s true is that everyone is uncomfortable with expressing anger and being critical. Anger and criticism generates rejection. And everyone hates rejection.
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Self-help books for those who believe You can have it all often advise, Follow your bliss and money will follow. With the collapse of the stock markets the reality of trade-offs is more like, When you follow your bliss, it’s money you’ll miss.
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I'm not saying that men make better fathers than women do mothers.
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A week after you read this chapter, misandry will become apparent in commercials, in films, in everyday conversations. But the bias that is hardest to see is the bias we share.
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We have entered 'The Era of the Three-Option Woman and the No-Option Man.'
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Myth. Rape is a manifestation of male political and economic power. Fact. Any given black man is three times as likely to be reported a rapist as a white man. Do blacks suddenly have more political and economic power? Maybe rape does not derive from power, but rather from powerlessness.
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The more our children see men being paid to take responsibility for children, the more respectable it will be for men to do work compatible with their role as dads.
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Programs like TANF (Temporary Assistance to Needy Families, formerly known as AFDC) and WIC (Women, Infants, and Children) subsidize the exclusion of dads. In effect, they create, as we have seen, future welfare recipients. Or tax spenders.
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Crime, especially crime involving money, reflects the gap between the expectation to provide and the ability to provide… If we really want men to commit crime as infrequently as women, we can start by not expecting men to provide for women more than we expect women to provide for men.
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He gets sex, she gets sex; if that is considered unequal, no wonder men are afraid of commitment.
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I would suggest that just as women who make it in the world of business need male business mentors, perhaps men who make it in the world of emotions will need female emotional mentors.
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The first instinctive response to any criticism is a defensive response. (The quicker the response, the more defensive.)
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It is important for a father who feels pushed away to say, in effect, 'When you do that, I feel unwanted as a father,' or 'I feel my rough-housing is not bad parenting; it's my contribution to helping our child take risks.' Women cannot hear what men do not say. – page 105.
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Feminism justified female 'victim power' by convincing the world that we lived in a sexist, male-dominated, and patriarchal world.
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Any guy who’s played team sports has practiced a skill I call 'team sport empathy': he’s practiced focusing on anticipating the other team’s moves. That means figuring out their way of looking at the situation.
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The problem is that Americans care more about saving whales than saving males.
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One grand fallacy of the women's movement: Expecting work to mean 'power' and 'self-fulfillment.'
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So while in men’s magazines success is a power tool to get sex and love, and therefore the look of success is crucial, in women’s magazines love and sex are power tools to get success-and therefore both the look of love and the sexual tease/promise are crucial.
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Our love for children is so immediate in part because we feel their powerlessness immediately; conversely, part of the way we deny our love for men is by denying men’s powerlessness. Too often we have confused love for men with respect for them, especially for their power to take care of us--which is really just love for ourselves.
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Ideally there should not be a men’s movement but a gender transition movement; only the power of the women’s movement necessitates the temporary corrective of a men’s movement. And this creates a special challenge for men: There are few political movements filled with healthy people, yet few healthy changes have occurred without political movements.
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Sexual harassment legislation in its present form makes all men unequal to all women.
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My first conflict with NOW erupted in the mid-’70s when NOW chapters increasingly rejected father involvement by rejecting shared parent time as the preferred arrangement after divorce.
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The one-sided funding creates one-sided images that reinforce the press defining as progress an examination of only women’s issues. Thus, a quarter century’s-worth of studies showing domestic violence against men to be more than equal to domestic violence against women receive so little publicity as to barely make a dent on the public’s consciousness.