Warren Farrell Quotes
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Feminism has taught women to sue men for sexual harassment or date rape when men initiate with the wrong person or with the wrong timing; no one has taught men to sue women for sexual trauma for saying 'yes,' then 'no,' then 'yes.' … Men are still expected to initiate, but now, if they do it badly, they could go to jail.
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When we hear men are the greater victims of crime, we tend to say, ‘Well, it’s men hurting other men.’ When we hear that blacks are the greater victims, we consider it racist to say, ‘Well, it’s blacks hurting blacks.’ The victim is a victim no matter who the perpetrator was.
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Men are the Rosie-the-Riveters of parenting: They’re brought in only when needed, and considered disposable thereafter.
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Minimizing the role of sexual attraction in rape denies our responsibility for reinforcing men's addiction to female sexual beauty and then depriving men of what we've helped addict them to.
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The corporate Catch-22: Don't be flexible, lose good women; be flexible, lose good women... A company listening to women's desires for flexibility and therefore fewer promotions, giving fewer promotions to women, and then being sued for giving fewer promotions to women. Yiddish has a word for this: chutzpah.
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Becoming a human doing was exactly what society needed. But for an individual man, becoming a human doing was his undoing.
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He gets sex, she gets sex; if that is considered unequal, no wonder men are afraid of commitment.
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We have forgotten that before we began calling this date rape and date fraud, we called it exciting.
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Our focus on discrimination against women during the past 30 years has blinded us to opportunities for women.
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This is the first time in history that we’ve had this level of luxury, so we have a new opportunity to rethink the way we approach God.
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Letting men die is a money-saving device. Safety costs money… as one safety official put it, ‘When everything is hurry, hurry, hurry, when you start pressuring people and taking shortcuts, things can go wrong. And then people die.’ No. And then men die.
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Divorce laws have given women economic support after divorce; no laws have given men emotional support after divorce. Men are required to continue their obligations to their exes in the form of alimony or child support; women are not required to continue their obligation to their exes in the form of homemaking or nurturing.
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No legend told its children of beautiful princesses falling in love with conscientious objectors.
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Notice that much of what men do is also done by single mothers so appreciating what men do also helps us appreciate what single moms do.
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In brief, when women batter, men’s first priority is to support the women and help them change; when men batter, women’s first priority is to escape the men and put them in prison.
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With men, we blame the victim. We blame men because we have camouflaged men’s victimization by teaching men to also be the victimizer. Men’s victimizer status camouflages men’s victim status.
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The function of gossip is to create an 'in group' bond by creating an 'out group' enemy.
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Options allow a woman to tailor her role to her personality, but if a man expects to provide well, he expects to wear a suit, not to wear what suits him.
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Teaching the child to treat boundaries seriously teaches the child to respect the rights and needs of others. Thinking of another’s needs creates empathy.
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It is often said that women are a civilizing balance to the innately warlike male. By taking care of the killing for women it could be said that men civilized women. When survival was the issue, men killing to protect what women bore was the male form of nurturance.
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The solution to all this is not criminalization but resocialization.
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Men goeth to that place from which appreciation cometh.
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Both sexes had an unconscious investment in keeping men from expressing feelings of fear and vulnerability.
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Note the men’s fear that if they reported this to the authorities, not only would they not be believed, they would be ridiculed.