Warren Farrell Quotes
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In San Diego there is a highly popular course called How to Marry Money. Note that the marriage is to money-not to a person. I inquired about the percentage of men attending... 'The course is really for women,' the instructor replied, 'it's not relevant to men.'
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Why do we resist giving help to homeless men? In part because we don’t understand how our pressure on men to support families often forces men to take transient jobs that are but a step away from homelessness (the death-of-a-salesman jobs, the migrant worker jobs…) and in part because we respond differently to men who fail than women who fail.
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Sometimes I have a feeling, when I look back on my life, that all I’ve been through has prepared me perfectly for just what I’m doing now.
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Every day, almost as many men are killed at work as were killed during the average day in Vietnam. For men, there are, in essence, three male-only drafts: the draft of men to all the wars; the draft of Everyman to unpaid bodyguard; the draft of men to all the hazardous jobs-or ‘death professions.’
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Societies in which men were unwilling to dispose of themselves in war were societies that usually got disposed of. Societies that were protected were protected by killers, which is why I call the traditional role of men the role of killer-protector.
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Survey 2001: Men who never married, never had a child, worked full time and were college educated earn only 85% of what women with the same criteria earn.
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Look under the 'Love and Friendship' section and see dozens of cards designed for women to send to women, most bashing men, and virtually none saying anything loving about men.
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When a woman appears to express fear, we cannot assure her without at least releasing her from responsibility; when we interpret the same emotion in a man as anger, we want to blame him and be certain he acknowledges responsibility. We want to find her guiltless; we want to find him guilty.
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When we add the devaluation of male values to the demonizing of male sexuality, many boys feel like a pervert before they know who they are.
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Feminists who say that I switched sides because I am an opportunist should know that exactly the opposite is true. It's cost me a lot of money. I've gone from being well-to-do to being $70,000 in debt. I have done something self-destructive financially. I could only do it because I don't have to support a wife and child.
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Boys with a 'failure to launch' are invisible to most girls. With poor social skills, the boys feel anger at their fear of being rejected and self-loathing at their inability to compete.
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Divorce laws have given women economic support after divorce; no laws have given men emotional support after divorce. Men are required to continue their obligations to their exes in the form of alimony or child support; women are not required to continue their obligation to their exes in the form of homemaking or nurturing.
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If there is one quality that I find is more essential to a successful and happy life than any other, it is empathy. It is at the core of family stability and love. I’ve never had a couple come to me and say, 'I want a divorce; my partner understands me.'
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The function of gossip is to create an 'in group' bond by creating an 'out group' enemy.
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Women-in-jeopardy movies are, in essence, the updated versions of men dying to save the princess from the dragon to earn her love. They are modern-day training films for teaching women to select the best protectors while weeding out the rest.
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For blacks in our society, victimization may be a true issue. But it isn't a true issue for women. Neither men nor women are victimized. The true issue, that I try to point out, is that both sexes suffer restricted roles.
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A mother’s traditional role prepared her to love her family by being with the family she loved.
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When women hold off from marrying men, we call it independence. When men hold off from marrying women, we call it fear of commitment.
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During what years should a child be introduced to better ways of giving and receiving criticisms – to what I call 'relationship language'? Before school age. The best teacher? Parents.
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This is the first time in history that we’ve had this level of luxury, so we have a new opportunity to rethink the way we approach God.
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Ralph had lost real power by trying to gain the appearance of power. He was a leader. But he was following a program for leaders ; therefore, he was a follower... he was, as he put it, a high-level mediocre.
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The corporate Catch-22: Don't be flexible, lose good women; be flexible, lose good women... A company listening to women's desires for flexibility and therefore fewer promotions, giving fewer promotions to women, and then being sued for giving fewer promotions to women. Yiddish has a word for this: chutzpah.
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Feminists often discuss women having two jobs: work and children. True. But no one discusses those divorced and remarried men who have three jobs: work, and two sets of children to nurture and financially support.
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In brief, part of the need for funding comes from the need to create balance to a third of a century of funding an 'attitude' toward men. And part comes from the need to study how both sexes can make a transition from those rigid roles to more flexible roads with a clear enough road map to not go over too many cliffs along the way...