Warren Farrell Quotes
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Commitment often means that a woman achieves her primary fantasy, while a man gives his up. In exchange for forfeiting his primary fantasy, what does he hope to fulfill? His primary need: intimacy.
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When women hold off from marrying men, we call it independence. When men hold off from marrying women, we call it fear of commitment.
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Women are socialized to take advantage of four informal options for emotional support: husbands; womenfriends; children; and parents. Men are socialized to take advantage of only one of these informal options: their wife or womanfriend.
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I don't have children that I've lost in a bitter custody dispute. But I see an enormous wound in kids due to a lack of their dads.
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For thousands of years, most marriages were in Stage I-survival-focused. After World War II, marriages increasingly flirted with Stage II-a self-fulfillment focus... Love's definition is in a transition.
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If Women Have An Equal EMPLOYMENT Opportunity Commission, Why Don’t Men Have An Equal FAMILY Opportunity Commission?
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After a conflict, women are not only more likely to turn to other womenfriends for support, but are nine times more likely to be with their children should conflict become divorce.
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A week after you read this chapter, misandry will become apparent in commercials, in films, in everyday conversations. But the bias that is hardest to see is the bias we share.
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Sometimes I have a feeling, when I look back on my life, that all I’ve been through has prepared me perfectly for just what I’m doing now.
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The teenage female has less demand to perform and more resources to attract love. Her body and mind are more genetic gifts.
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I'm not saying that men make better fathers than women do mothers.
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When a government subsidy deprives the child of its dad the government is really subsidizing child abuse.
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A part-time working woman makes $1.10 for every dollar made by her male counterpart.
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Men give the same lines to different women for the same reason women wear the same perfume for different men; we all try the things that work.
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It is important for a father who feels pushed away to say, in effect, 'When you do that, I feel unwanted as a father,' or 'I feel my rough-housing is not bad parenting; it's my contribution to helping our child take risks.' Women cannot hear what men do not say. – page 105.
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All societies that have survived have survived based on their ability to prepare their sons to be disposable, in war and at work-and therefore as dads.
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Feminists who say that I switched sides because I am an opportunist should know that exactly the opposite is true. It's cost me a lot of money. I've gone from being well-to-do to being $70,000 in debt. I have done something self-destructive financially. I could only do it because I don't have to support a wife and child.
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Part of our evolutionary heritage is the ability to adapt - species that survive, adapt. Humans adapt by altering their priorities to match evolving values.
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In the past we believed both sexes were born with original sin. Today, we have come to unconsciously believe in the original sin of boys, but the original innocence of girls. – page 103.
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Men have the influence and power in business and politics. It is the mother who can make the child's bedtime earlier, take away desserts or ground the child.
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The five different areas in which boys are in crisis - education; jobs; emotional health; physical health; and fatherlessness - are handled by different portions of the government.
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Ralph had lost real power by trying to gain the appearance of power. He was a leader. But he was following a program for leaders ; therefore, he was a follower... he was, as he put it, a high-level mediocre.
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Boys with a 'failure to launch' are invisible to most girls. With poor social skills, the boys feel anger at their fear of being rejected and self-loathing at their inability to compete.
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When a woman appears to express fear, we cannot assure her without at least releasing her from responsibility; when we interpret the same emotion in a man as anger, we want to blame him and be certain he acknowledges responsibility. We want to find her guiltless; we want to find him guilty.