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Sitcoms routinely portray women hitting men, almost never portray men hitting women. When he fails to leave, it is not called 'Battered Man Syndrome'; it is called comedy.
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Hochschild’s biggest mistake, though, was one made by almost every popularized housework study: not adequately measuring men’s contribution to work around the home. For example, if mom drives the children to daycare, it’s called housework; if dad drives the family to grandma’s, it isn’t called housework.
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A week after you read this chapter, misandry will become apparent in commercials, in films, in everyday conversations. But the bias that is hardest to see is the bias we share.
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The problem with every judgment of sexual behavior is that it is made by people who aren’t being stimulated as they are making the judgment. A jury that sees a woman in a sterile courtroom, asks her what she wanted, and then assumes that anything else she did was the responsibility of the man is insulting not only the woman but the power of sex.
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Becoming a human doing was exactly what society needed. But for an individual man, becoming a human doing was his undoing.
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We often think that when a man insults another man by calling him a 'girl,' the insult reflects a contempt for women. No. It reflects a contempt for any man who is unwilling to make himself strong enough to protect someone as precious as a woman.
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Men are often a lot less vindictive than women are, because we are rejected constantly every day.
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It is important that a woman’s 'noes' be respected and her 'yeses' be respected. And it is also important when her nonverbal 'yeses' (tongues still touching) conflict with those verbal 'noes' that the man not be put in jail for choosing the 'yes' over the 'no.' He might just be trying to become her fantasy.
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I've gone from being quite wealthy, when I was defending women, to being quite poor defending men.
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The rules of sexism do not free men from the terror of violence; they only keep men from complaining about it.
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Men are the Rosie-the-Riveters of parenting: They’re brought in only when needed, and considered disposable thereafter.
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The hard part (of communication) is hearing criticism so it can be easily given.
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In brief, when a man fails as a wallet, we put him in prison; when a woman fails as a mother, we offer her social services. We’re taking a criminal approach to men, a social services approach to women.
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Just as the Depression left a generation of dads feeling they never had enough money, so father deprivation is leaving a generation of sons and daughters with different psychic wounds.
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In brief, when women batter, men’s first priority is to support the women and help them change; when men batter, women’s first priority is to escape the men and put them in prison.
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Many black men leave because they are financially responsible-not because they are emotionally irresponsible.
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Both sexes had an unconscious investment in keeping men from expressing feelings of fear and vulnerability.
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The more the father is involved, the more easily the child makes open, receptive, and trusting contact with new people in its life.
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I definitely agree with choices for women, but I do not agree with choices for women when they eliminate choices for men. Rather, I think that the sexes need to make choices that lead to the maximum amount of win-win for both sexes.
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Both parents’ rights must be in balance so children can grow up with a balance between both parents.
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If a woman isn't being hazed, she's not being tested; therefore, she is not being trusted.
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Letting men die is a money-saving device. Safety costs money… as one safety official put it, ‘When everything is hurry, hurry, hurry, when you start pressuring people and taking shortcuts, things can go wrong. And then people die.’ No. And then men die.
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Men’s pay paid women to love and nurture, to connect and feel. To be nurturer-connectors. In contrast, men received their pay by being some form of killer-protector. By becoming a human doing (a captain or a coal miner), not a human being (a person who feels happy or sad).
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Men don't oppress women any more than women oppress men.
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