Warren Farrell Quotes
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This is the first time in history that we’ve had this level of luxury, so we have a new opportunity to rethink the way we approach God.
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Men are still playing protector of women’s transitions, and both sexes expect only men to make transitions on their own.
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Pay is about the power we forfeit to get the power of pay. For example, we forfeit power when we work for others, not ourselves, but we get the power of the paycheck when we do that.
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We have forgotten that before we began calling this date rape and date fraud, we called it exciting.
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Becoming a human doing was exactly what society needed. But for an individual man, becoming a human doing was his undoing.
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Sitcoms routinely portray women hitting men, almost never portray men hitting women. When he fails to leave, it is not called 'Battered Man Syndrome'; it is called comedy.
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For blacks in our society, victimization may be a true issue. But it isn't a true issue for women. Neither men nor women are victimized. The true issue, that I try to point out, is that both sexes suffer restricted roles.
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I definitely agree with choices for women, but I do not agree with choices for women when they eliminate choices for men. Rather, I think that the sexes need to make choices that lead to the maximum amount of win-win for both sexes.
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Men are often a lot less vindictive than women are, because we are rejected constantly every day.
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Perhaps the best reason to consider the hard sciences is that, well, one study suggests science, engineering, medicine, and dentistry graduates live longer than arts graduates (or law grads). So whatever money you make you can keep a bit longer.
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A woman with organizing skills can run a construction company without ever picking up a hammer and nail.
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In brief, when women batter, men’s first priority is to support the women and help them change; when men batter, women’s first priority is to escape the men and put them in prison.
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Commitment often means that a woman achieves her primary fantasy, while a man gives his up. In exchange for forfeiting his primary fantasy, what does he hope to fulfill? His primary need: intimacy.
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For example, the equivalent of a woman being treated as a sex object is a man being treated as a success object.
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Industrialization created the 'Father’s Catch-22': a dad loving his children by being away from the love of his children.
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Teaching children to debate without teaching children to listen is divorce training.
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When I lose my larger sense of supporting people to be their best, I lessen my contact with the God inside me.
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Perhaps the most prevailing expectation of men is our Superman expectation: the fear we are merely Clark Kents who won't be accepted unless we are a Superman.
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When we hear men are the greater victims of crime, we tend to say, ‘Well, it’s men hurting other men.’ When we hear that blacks are the greater victims, we consider it racist to say, ‘Well, it’s blacks hurting blacks.’ The victim is a victim no matter who the perpetrator was.
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The challenge is shifting our appreciation: being willing to give up some of dad’s money for more of dad’s love. And, in the process, altering the psyche that makes him lovable.
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Societies in which men were unwilling to dispose of themselves in war were societies that usually got disposed of. Societies that were protected were protected by killers, which is why I call the traditional role of men the role of killer-protector.
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The problem with every judgment of sexual behavior is that it is made by people who aren’t being stimulated as they are making the judgment. A jury that sees a woman in a sterile courtroom, asks her what she wanted, and then assumes that anything else she did was the responsibility of the man is insulting not only the woman but the power of sex.
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In the past we believed both sexes were born with original sin. Today, we have come to unconsciously believe in the original sin of boys, but the original innocence of girls. – page 103.
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All societies that have survived have survived based on their ability to prepare their sons to be disposable, in war and at work-and therefore as dads.