Warren Farrell Quotes
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Part of our evolutionary heritage is the ability to adapt - species that survive, adapt. Humans adapt by altering their priorities to match evolving values.
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For thousands of years, most marriages were in Stage I-survival-focused. After World War II, marriages increasingly flirted with Stage II-a self-fulfillment focus... Love's definition is in a transition.
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Women are socialized to take advantage of four informal options for emotional support: husbands; womenfriends; children; and parents. Men are socialized to take advantage of only one of these informal options: their wife or womanfriend.
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By the mid-’90s, the anger at men had become so palpable that even sedate publications like The Economist were characterizing women’s vs. men’s workload as 'A woman’s work is never done; a man is drunk from sun to sun.'
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This is the basis of the Innocent Woman Defense -the Innocent Woman Principle : Women are believed when they say they are innocent of violence and most easily doubted when they say they are guilty of violence.
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I'm not saying that men make better fathers than women do mothers.
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It is often said that women are a civilizing balance to the innately warlike male. By taking care of the killing for women it could be said that men civilized women. When survival was the issue, men killing to protect what women bore was the male form of nurturance.
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The Female Western is the battle between the good and evil methods of getting the men who perform best.
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Becoming a human doing was exactly what society needed. But for an individual man, becoming a human doing was his undoing.
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Unless a woman asks men out (the first time) as often as men ask her out, then the assertion He asked me out, therefore he pays is just a double jeopardy of the male role: he must not only do the asking, he must pay extra for risking extra rejection.
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Laws with broad definitions of rape are like laws making 55 mile per hour speed limits for men and no speed limits for women.
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Sexual harassment legislation in its present form makes all men unequal to all women.
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The male corporate model is built on a man's greater willingness to be a slave of sorts - especially once he has to provide for children.
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Self-help books for those who believe You can have it all often advise, Follow your bliss and money will follow. With the collapse of the stock markets the reality of trade-offs is more like, When you follow your bliss, it’s money you’ll miss.
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Commitment often means that a woman achieves her primary fantasy, while a man gives his up. In exchange for forfeiting his primary fantasy, what does he hope to fulfill? His primary need: intimacy.
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Hochschild’s biggest mistake, though, was one made by almost every popularized housework study: not adequately measuring men’s contribution to work around the home. For example, if mom drives the children to daycare, it’s called housework; if dad drives the family to grandma’s, it isn’t called housework.
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Teaching children to debate without teaching children to listen is divorce training.
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We are all gifted of the mouth, retarded of the ear.
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Most mothers want more of dad in their children’s lives, not less.
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One can make a case that says that since 85% of children being brought up in single family homes are being brought up by women that about 85% of elementary school teachers should be males to balance out the feminization that the boys and girls receive.
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When our binoculars are focused on the dad as 'deadbeat,' it often even leads us to missing concrete cues a dad gives to show his desire to be involved.
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Today, violence against women is rightly abhorred. But we call violence against men entertainment. Think of football, boxing, wrestling... All are games used to sugarcoat violence against men, originally in need of sugarcoating so our team -or our society -could bribe its best protectors to sacrifice themselves.
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With men, we blame the victim. We blame men because we have camouflaged men’s victimization by teaching men to also be the victimizer. Men’s victimizer status camouflages men’s victim status.
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Men are still playing protector of women’s transitions, and both sexes expect only men to make transitions on their own.