Warren Farrell Quotes
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By the mid-’90s, the anger at men had become so palpable that even sedate publications like The Economist were characterizing women’s vs. men’s workload as 'A woman’s work is never done; a man is drunk from sun to sun.'
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Pay is about the power we forfeit to get the power of pay. For example, we forfeit power when we work for others, not ourselves, but we get the power of the paycheck when we do that.
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When our binoculars are focused on the dad as 'deadbeat,' it often even leads us to missing concrete cues a dad gives to show his desire to be involved.
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Hochschild’s biggest mistake, though, was one made by almost every popularized housework study: not adequately measuring men’s contribution to work around the home. For example, if mom drives the children to daycare, it’s called housework; if dad drives the family to grandma’s, it isn’t called housework.
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We had affirmative action programs to help women help themselves economically. Is it now time for affirmative action programs to do for men’s feelings what the government did for women’s economics?
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If a woman isn't being hazed, she's not being tested; therefore, she is not being trusted.
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Our main reasons for fearing males having sex with males is that you really had to construct a more powerful social role to keep men in their place than you did to keep women in their place.
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In a Stage II world, in communities in which survival is mastered enough to create a balance with self-fulfillment, we have the option of 'relationship language' that nourishes the soul.
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If we hold the married man accountable for finances gone legally awry, then the married woman should be held accountable for children who go awry.
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Neither men nor women are exempt from killing loved ones. The difference is in what happens to them when they do. Twelve distinct female-only defenses allow a woman who commits a premeditated murder to have the charges dropped or significantly reduced. No man has successfully used any of these defenses in similar circumstances.
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Most mothers want more of dad in their children’s lives, not less.
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Male Message 1 is subconsciously experienced by the boy like this: ‘Some girls in my class already look like movie stars. If they wanted me as much as I want them, then I’d know I was okay. They are genetic celebrities. I am a genetic groupie.’
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The best-selling magazines to men are Playboy and Penthouse. These represent men’s primary fantasy: access to as many beautiful women as desired without risk of rejection. The best-selling magazines to women are Better Homes and Gardens and Family Circle, representing the female primary fantasy: better homes and gardens and a family circle.
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Killing the criticizer, then, is part of our evolutionary past; listening in response to criticism is part of our evolutionary future.
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If we are to inspire men to father it also helps to stop reflexively condemning men as afraid of commitment and address what they are afraid of. –page246.
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The best way to use these lists to replace anger with love in real life is to nurture each other by doing for your partner what your partner normally does for you.
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The women themselves say they're far more likely to care about flexibility. The men say, 'I'm far more likely to care about money.'
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The one-sided funding creates one-sided images that reinforce the press defining as progress an examination of only women’s issues. Thus, a quarter century’s-worth of studies showing domestic violence against men to be more than equal to domestic violence against women receive so little publicity as to barely make a dent on the public’s consciousness.
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I would suggest that just as women who make it in the world of business need male business mentors, perhaps men who make it in the world of emotions will need female emotional mentors.
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One can make a case that says that since 85% of children being brought up in single family homes are being brought up by women that about 85% of elementary school teachers should be males to balance out the feminization that the boys and girls receive.
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Societies in which men were unwilling to dispose of themselves in war were societies that usually got disposed of. Societies that were protected were protected by killers, which is why I call the traditional role of men the role of killer-protector.
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The Female Western is the battle between the good and evil methods of getting the men who perform best.
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When women hold off from marrying men, we call it independence. When men hold off from marrying women, we call it fear of commitment.
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Commitment often means that a woman achieves her primary fantasy, while a man gives his up. In exchange for forfeiting his primary fantasy, what does he hope to fulfill? His primary need: intimacy.