Warren Farrell Quotes
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Industrialization created the 'Father’s Catch-22': a dad loving his children by being away from the love of his children.
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Commitment often means that a woman achieves her primary fantasy, while a man gives his up. In exchange for forfeiting his primary fantasy, what does he hope to fulfill? His primary need: intimacy.
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The legal bias for special protection for women has begun to wreak havoc with the Constitution's guarantee of equal protection.
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In San Diego there is a highly popular course called How to Marry Money. Note that the marriage is to money-not to a person. I inquired about the percentage of men attending... 'The course is really for women,' the instructor replied, 'it's not relevant to men.'
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Letting men die is a money-saving device. Safety costs money… as one safety official put it, ‘When everything is hurry, hurry, hurry, when you start pressuring people and taking shortcuts, things can go wrong. And then people die.’ No. And then men die.
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A 2001 survey of business owners with MBAs conducted by the Rochester Institute of Technology found that money was the primary motivator for only 29% of women, versus 76% of men. Women prioritized flexibility, fulfillment, autonomy and safety.
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This is the first time in history that we’ve had this level of luxury, so we have a new opportunity to rethink the way we approach God.
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Men are the Rosie-the-Riveters of parenting: They’re brought in only when needed, and considered disposable thereafter.
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In the past we believed both sexes were born with original sin. Today, we have come to unconsciously believe in the original sin of boys, but the original innocence of girls. – page 103.
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It is ironic that a movement that made its reputation championing the irrelevance of biological differences when those differences were to most women's disadvantage immediately returned to biological determinism when those differences were to the most women’s advantage.
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Many women are discovering that the motherhood instinct implies a responsibility to be certain children have dads - everyday, not far away; and some are aware that economic independence requires not holding on to her child as if it were her job.
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When we hear men are the greater victims of crime, we tend to say, ‘Well, it’s men hurting other men.’ When we hear that blacks are the greater victims, we consider it racist to say, ‘Well, it’s blacks hurting blacks.’ The victim is a victim no matter who the perpetrator was.
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The best-selling magazines to men are Playboy and Penthouse. These represent men’s primary fantasy: access to as many beautiful women as desired without risk of rejection. The best-selling magazines to women are Better Homes and Gardens and Family Circle, representing the female primary fantasy: better homes and gardens and a family circle.
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The best way to use these lists to replace anger with love in real life is to nurture each other by doing for your partner what your partner normally does for you.
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Both sexes had an unconscious investment in keeping men from expressing feelings of fear and vulnerability.
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If you are a woman, you might feel torn between logical agreement and emotional resistance. Why? It seems like a simpler solution to blame men for the pay gap than to engineer your own bridge to higher pay.
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All societies that have survived have survived based on their ability to prepare their sons to be disposable, in war and at work-and therefore as dads.
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Hochschild’s biggest mistake, though, was one made by almost every popularized housework study: not adequately measuring men’s contribution to work around the home. For example, if mom drives the children to daycare, it’s called housework; if dad drives the family to grandma’s, it isn’t called housework.
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For example, the equivalent of a woman being treated as a sex object is a man being treated as a success object.
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Teaching children to debate without teaching children to listen is divorce training.
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The rules of sexism do not free men from the terror of violence; they only keep men from complaining about it.
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In brief, when a man fails as a wallet, we put him in prison; when a woman fails as a mother, we offer her social services. We’re taking a criminal approach to men, a social services approach to women.
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Look under the 'Love and Friendship' section and see dozens of cards designed for women to send to women, most bashing men, and virtually none saying anything loving about men.
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The problem with every judgment of sexual behavior is that it is made by people who aren’t being stimulated as they are making the judgment. A jury that sees a woman in a sterile courtroom, asks her what she wanted, and then assumes that anything else she did was the responsibility of the man is insulting not only the woman but the power of sex.