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Killing the criticizer, then, is part of our evolutionary past; listening in response to criticism is part of our evolutionary future.
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Circumcision in the United States is routinely performed without anesthesia, though anesthesia reduces the infant's stress and prevents infection and blood clots.
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Societies in which men were unwilling to dispose of themselves in war were societies that usually got disposed of. Societies that were protected were protected by killers, which is why I call the traditional role of men the role of killer-protector.
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Hochschild’s biggest mistake, though, was one made by almost every popularized housework study: not adequately measuring men’s contribution to work around the home. For example, if mom drives the children to daycare, it’s called housework; if dad drives the family to grandma’s, it isn’t called housework.
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The women themselves say they're far more likely to care about flexibility. The men say, 'I'm far more likely to care about money.'
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If Women Have An Equal EMPLOYMENT Opportunity Commission, Why Don’t Men Have An Equal FAMILY Opportunity Commission?
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Men are often a lot less vindictive than women are, because we are rejected constantly every day.
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Sexism is discounting the female experience of powerlessness; the new sexism is discounting the male experience of powerlessness.
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Letting men die is a money-saving device. Safety costs money… as one safety official put it, ‘When everything is hurry, hurry, hurry, when you start pressuring people and taking shortcuts, things can go wrong. And then people die.’ No. And then men die.
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It is important that a woman’s 'noes' be respected and her 'yeses' be respected. And it is also important when her nonverbal 'yeses' (tongues still touching) conflict with those verbal 'noes' that the man not be put in jail for choosing the 'yes' over the 'no.' He might just be trying to become her fantasy.
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If there is one quality that I find is more essential to a successful and happy life than any other, it is empathy. It is at the core of family stability and love. I’ve never had a couple come to me and say, 'I want a divorce; my partner understands me.'
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By the 1970s, the American woman was being called ‘liberated’ or ‘superwoman’ while the American man was being called ‘baby killer’ if he fought in Vietnam, ‘traitor’ if he protested, or ‘apathetic’ if he did neither. Even men who came home paraplegics were literally spit on.
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No legend told its children of beautiful princesses falling in love with conscientious objectors.
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The problem with every judgment of sexual behavior is that it is made by people who aren’t being stimulated as they are making the judgment. A jury that sees a woman in a sterile courtroom, asks her what she wanted, and then assumes that anything else she did was the responsibility of the man is insulting not only the woman but the power of sex.
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Feminists who say that I switched sides because I am an opportunist should know that exactly the opposite is true. It's cost me a lot of money. I've gone from being well-to-do to being $70,000 in debt. I have done something self-destructive financially. I could only do it because I don't have to support a wife and child.
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For example, the equivalent of a woman being treated as a sex object is a man being treated as a success object.
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Becoming a human doing was exactly what society needed. But for an individual man, becoming a human doing was his undoing.
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This is the first time in history that we’ve had this level of luxury, so we have a new opportunity to rethink the way we approach God.
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When I see dads being most effective with children, it is usually when they have an intuitive understanding that, for example, the car trip to and from the soccer game is potentially as important as the game itself.
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A 2001 survey of business owners with MBAs conducted by the Rochester Institute of Technology found that money was the primary motivator for only 29% of women, versus 76% of men. Women prioritized flexibility, fulfillment, autonomy and safety.
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The hard part (of communication) is hearing criticism so it can be easily given.
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When our binoculars are focused on the dad as 'deadbeat,' it often even leads us to missing concrete cues a dad gives to show his desire to be involved.
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The worst aspect of dating from the perspective of many men is how dating can feel to a man like robbery by social custom – the social custom of him taking money out of his pocket, giving it to her, and calling it a date. To a young man, the worst dates feel like being robbed and rejected. Boys risk death to avoid rejection (e.g., by joining the Army)
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Feminism has taught women to sue men for sexual harassment or date rape when men initiate with the wrong person or with the wrong timing; no one has taught men to sue women for sexual trauma for saying 'yes,' then 'no,' then 'yes.' … Men are still expected to initiate, but now, if they do it badly, they could go to jail.