Warren Farrell Quotes
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Our love for children is so immediate in part because we feel their powerlessness immediately; conversely, part of the way we deny our love for men is by denying men’s powerlessness. Too often we have confused love for men with respect for them, especially for their power to take care of us--which is really just love for ourselves.
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One can make a case that says that since 85% of children being brought up in single family homes are being brought up by women that about 85% of elementary school teachers should be males to balance out the feminization that the boys and girls receive.
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Male Message 1 is subconsciously experienced by the boy like this: ‘Some girls in my class already look like movie stars. If they wanted me as much as I want them, then I’d know I was okay. They are genetic celebrities. I am a genetic groupie.’
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Look under the 'Love and Friendship' section and see dozens of cards designed for women to send to women, most bashing men, and virtually none saying anything loving about men.
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In brief, she is the partner to what primarily he creates; he is the visitor to what primarily she creates. To me, this wasn’t equality.
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The teenage female has less demand to perform and more resources to attract love. Her body and mind are more genetic gifts.
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We are at a unique moment in history - when a woman’s body is affected, we say the choice is hers; but when a boy’s body is affected, we say the choice is not his - the law requires our 18 year old sons to register for the draft, and therefore potential death-if-needed.
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Part of our evolutionary heritage is the ability to adapt - species that survive, adapt. Humans adapt by altering their priorities to match evolving values.
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Ideally there should not be a men’s movement but a gender transition movement; only the power of the women’s movement necessitates the temporary corrective of a men’s movement. And this creates a special challenge for men: There are few political movements filled with healthy people, yet few healthy changes have occurred without political movements.
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Our main reasons for fearing males having sex with males is that you really had to construct a more powerful social role to keep men in their place than you did to keep women in their place.
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If Women Have An Equal EMPLOYMENT Opportunity Commission, Why Don’t Men Have An Equal FAMILY Opportunity Commission?
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Sexual harassment legislation in its present form makes all men unequal to all women.
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Men have the influence and power in business and politics. It is the mother who can make the child's bedtime earlier, take away desserts or ground the child.
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When women hold off from marrying men, we call it independence. When men hold off from marrying women, we call it fear of commitment.
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Hochschild’s biggest mistake, though, was one made by almost every popularized housework study: not adequately measuring men’s contribution to work around the home. For example, if mom drives the children to daycare, it’s called housework; if dad drives the family to grandma’s, it isn’t called housework.
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We do not yet understand that when we neglect men, we rape women.
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In brief, we do more research on men in prison, men in the military, and men in general than we do on women for the same reason we do more research on rats than we do on humans.
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Pay is about the power we forfeit to get the power of pay. For example, we forfeit power when we work for others, not ourselves, but we get the power of the paycheck when we do that.
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We had affirmative action programs to help women help themselves economically. Is it now time for affirmative action programs to do for men’s feelings what the government did for women’s economics?
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Societies in which men were unwilling to dispose of themselves in war were societies that usually got disposed of. Societies that were protected were protected by killers, which is why I call the traditional role of men the role of killer-protector.
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Both parents’ rights must be in balance so children can grow up with a balance between both parents.
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When a government subsidy deprives the child of its dad the government is really subsidizing child abuse.
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Commitment often means that a woman achieves her primary fantasy, while a man gives his up. In exchange for forfeiting his primary fantasy, what does he hope to fulfill? His primary need: intimacy.
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When I see dads being most effective with children, it is usually when they have an intuitive understanding that, for example, the car trip to and from the soccer game is potentially as important as the game itself.