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Men rarely worry about using or being used because all relationships work that way. A man perceives himself as owning and being owned by a woman. 'Use' is a dirty word only when there's an imbalance in the relationship.
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We always look at the 'Fortune 500,' and we say, men in power, but we don't look at the glass cellar as opposed to the glass ceiling and say, men also are the homeless, men are also the ones that are the garbage collectors. Men are also the ones dying in construction sites that aren't properly supervised for safety hazards.
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I define power as 'control over one's life.' A balanced life is far superior to the male definition of power: earning money someone else spends while he dies sooner.
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Men who work to make it as computer whizzes or owners of black Porsches... are confused when they're told they are not vulnerable enough. We can't fall in love with men who appear invulnerable and expect vulnerability. Why did he want a black Porsche? Because he never saw an ugly woman get out of one.
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Men tuned into women but not tuned into their own hurts usually retained the attitude that women needed special protection.
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We have been suckered into believing that, because there are more men at the top than women at the top, that this is a result of discrimination against women. That's been the misconception. It's all about trade-offs. You earn more money, you usually sacrifice something at home.
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When women hold off from marrying men, we call it independence. When men hold off from marrying women, we call it fear of commitment.
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Is a man’s body at stake? Any time a man is asked to work to pay child support, he is using his body, his time, his life - not for nine months, but for a minimum of 18 to 21 years. So the motto of the feminist with integrity is, 'It’s a woman’s and man’s right to choose because it is a woman’s and man’s body at stake.'
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Part of what a good dad can do, then, is to make sure that his daughter also gets involved with team sports, and to help her with the lessons in life that are innate to any team empowering itself. –page119.
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Helping men express feelings starts with understanding why men don’t express them.
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The male corporate model is built on a man's greater willingness to be a slave of sorts - especially once he has to provide for children.
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By starving our children of men, we have made them more vulnerable to the very abuse we are trying to prevent. – page 97.
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So we've moved from an era when women's biology was women's destiny to today, which is an era in which men's biology is men's destiny.
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It certainly has not been in my self-interest to defend men.
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Sexism is discounting the female experience of powerlessness; the new sexism is discounting the male experience of powerlessness.
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Listening in response to criticism mandates a shift in our internal psyche that marks perhaps the most important single evolutionary shift humans can make.
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The teenage female has less demand to perform and more resources to attract love. Her body and mind are more genetic gifts.
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The more a man is trained to 'be a man,' the more he is trained to protect women and children, not hurt women and children. He is trained to volunteer to die before even a stranger is hurt – especially a woman or child.
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When a government subsidy deprives the child of its dad the government is really subsidizing child abuse.
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By the 1970s, the American woman was being called ‘liberated’ or ‘superwoman’ while the American man was being called ‘baby killer’ if he fought in Vietnam, ‘traitor’ if he protested, or ‘apathetic’ if he did neither. Even men who came home paraplegics were literally spit on.
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The only men who aren't in fear of women's reactions are usually men who aren't born or who are dead.
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Sometimes I have a feeling, when I look back on my life, that all I’ve been through has prepared me perfectly for just what I’m doing now.
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The five different areas in which boys are in crisis - education; jobs; emotional health; physical health; and fatherlessness - are handled by different portions of the government.
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In brief, we do more research on men in prison, men in the military, and men in general than we do on women for the same reason we do more research on rats than we do on humans.
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