Warren Farrell Quotes
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Men are socialized to trust women until evidence to the contrary surfaces; women are socialized to be suspicious of men until an individual man earns trust.
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I've always been motivated to stop people from doing dysfunctional things.
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Now, since I'm a husband and father, discrimination against women isn't just political, it's personal.
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We have been suckered into believing that, because there are more men at the top than women at the top, that this is a result of discrimination against women. That's been the misconception. It's all about trade-offs. You earn more money, you usually sacrifice something at home.
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A father’s traditional role prepared him to love his family by being away from the love of his family.
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For example, the equivalent of a woman being treated as a sex object is a man being treated as a success object.
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The more a man is trained to 'be a man,' the more he is trained to protect women and children, not hurt women and children. He is trained to volunteer to die before even a stranger is hurt – especially a woman or child.
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Many women are discovering that the motherhood instinct implies a responsibility to be certain children have dads - everyday, not far away; and some are aware that economic independence requires not holding on to her child as if it were her job.
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Blacks are six times more likely than whites to be victims of homicides.
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Is a man’s body at stake? Any time a man is asked to work to pay child support, he is using his body, his time, his life - not for nine months, but for a minimum of 18 to 21 years. So the motto of the feminist with integrity is, 'It’s a woman’s and man’s right to choose because it is a woman’s and man’s body at stake.'
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By starving our children of men, we have made them more vulnerable to the very abuse we are trying to prevent. – page 97.
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Just as the Depression left a generation of dads feeling they never had enough money, so father deprivation is leaving a generation of sons and daughters with different psychic wounds.
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Women’s genetic celebrity power magnifies men’s protector instinct. It inspires the government-as-substitute-husband. Men’s addiction to the genetic celebrity is either invisible or in the denial stage-thus we either don’t see it, or when confronted, deny it.
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Ideally there should not be a men’s movement but a gender transition movement; only the power of the women’s movement necessitates the temporary corrective of a men’s movement. And this creates a special challenge for men: There are few political movements filled with healthy people, yet few healthy changes have occurred without political movements.
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The hard part (of communication) is hearing criticism so it can be easily given.
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This is the basis of the Innocent Woman Defense -the Innocent Woman Principle : Women are believed when they say they are innocent of violence and most easily doubted when they say they are guilty of violence.
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Men are often a lot less vindictive than women are, because we are rejected constantly every day.
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The weakness of men is the facade of strength; the strength of women is the facade of weakness.
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So we've moved from an era when women's biology was women's destiny to today, which is an era in which men's biology is men's destiny.
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Without children, men have more liberty to earn less - that is, they are free to pursue more fulfilling and less lucrative careers, like writing or art or teaching social studies.
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My wife's income allowed me to do what I really loved. I realized that women's liberation is men's liberation, too.
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When a man is able to connect with his feelings, he is able to care more.
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Part of what a good dad can do, then, is to make sure that his daughter also gets involved with team sports, and to help her with the lessons in life that are innate to any team empowering itself. –page119.
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It is important that a woman’s 'noes' be respected and her 'yeses' be respected. And it is also important when her nonverbal 'yeses' (tongues still touching) conflict with those verbal 'noes' that the man not be put in jail for choosing the 'yes' over the 'no.' He might just be trying to become her fantasy.