Warren Farrell Quotes
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When we train men for war, we lose some part of every man we train - even if we win the war. When we train men to be better nurturers, even men who fail the course will have won. And so will every child they ever meet. Training men to love is a nation’s best investment.
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If we have integrity about our desire to support men to express feelings, every institution and attitude between the sexes will require questioning and adjusting.
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Fear of emotional contact with men out of fear of being a sexual suspect makes boys, ironically, even more powerless before girls. Homophobia is like telling the United States it will be a sissy nation if it doesn’t get all its oil from OPEC.
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We are all gifted of the mouth, retarded of the ear.
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It is ironic that a movement that made its reputation championing the irrelevance of biological differences when those differences were to most women's disadvantage immediately returned to biological determinism when those differences were to the most women’s advantage.
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We have entered 'The Era of the Three-Option Woman and the No-Option Man.'
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The problem is that Americans care more about saving whales than saving males.
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In the future, women will increasingly want men who can nurture them and connect with them.
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Women will risk their lives to protect children, but rarely risk their lives to protect an adult man.
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'Visitation' reflects the era of the absentee father; 'parent time' influences the re-emergence of the involved father. 'Visitation' reflects the destruction of the family; 'parent time' influences the reconstruction of the family. 'Parent time' influences an era that understands that as either parents loses, so lose the children.
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The worst aspect of dating from the perspective of many men is how dating can feel to a man like robbery by social custom – the social custom of him taking money out of his pocket, giving it to her, and calling it a date. To a young man, the worst dates feel like being robbed and rejected. Boys risk death to avoid rejection (e.g., by joining the Army)
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Men are not only women's unpaid bodyguards, they actually pay to be a woman's bodyguard.
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Even men who share their personal experiences find that, instead of empathy, they get the response Dear Abby gave this man: 'Women have it worse.' This belief is so strong that over the past quarter century, women’s old fantasy of marrying a man-as-protector has been tainted by women’s new nightmare of husband-as-batterer.
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Alan Alda is loved not because he's sensitive, but because he's successful and sensitive.
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When we look at the pay of men and women who do work equal hours, two discoveries are quite astonishing: -When women and men work less than 40 hours a week, the women earn more than the men; -When men and women work more than 40, the men earn more than the women.
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A mother’s traditional role prepared her to love her family by being with the family she loved.
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Perhaps the most prevailing expectation of men is our Superman expectation: the fear we are merely Clark Kents who won't be accepted unless we are a Superman.
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In more than thirty years of conducting workshops, no one has ever said to me, 'Warren, I want a divorce – my partner understands me.'
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In the future, women will increasingly want nurturer-connectors, since part of what he will be nurturing is her ability to protect herself.
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Sexual harassment legislation feels unfair to men because if they sued over an ethnic joke, or over a woman discussing pornography or asking them out, they’d be laughed out of the company.
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The more our children see men being paid to take responsibility for children, the more respectable it will be for men to do work compatible with their role as dads.
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Many black men leave because they are financially responsible-not because they are emotionally irresponsible.
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ITEM: The Mike Tyson trial. The hotel in which the jury is sequestered goes ablaze. Two firefighters die saving its occupants. The trial of Mike Tyson made us increasingly aware of men-as-rapists. The firefighters' deaths did not make us increasingly aware of men-as-saviors. We were more aware of one man doing harm than of two men saving...
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Since no one is always right, always being right is really a role model for his children feeling inadequate.