Warren Farrell Quotes
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When we add the devaluation of male values to the demonizing of male sexuality, many boys feel like a pervert before they know who they are.
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Nothing threatens a father’s involvement in the family more than his obligation to be the family’s 'financial womb,' creating 'The Father’s ‘Catch-22’': loving the family by being away from the family. It is the irony of traditional fatherhood: being a father by not being a father.
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When women's consciousness was raised, women ended up seeing housework as their shit work ; when men's consciousness is raised, risking sexual rejection will be seen as the male shit work .
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If a man ignoring a woman’s verbal 'no' is committing date rape, then a woman who says 'no' with her verbal language but 'yes' with her body language is committing date fraud. And a woman who continues to be sexual even after she says 'no' is committing date lying.
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Men learn to call pain 'glory'; women learn to call the police.
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If a female employee is offended, a boss would like her to tell him, not sue him.
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By attending to the conscious part of ourselves, we contribute to the peace of others as well as ourselves.
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Our choice of partners is one of the clearest statements about our choice of values.
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When a government requires a man to support a child he was tricked into creating, that government subsidizes fraud. No. It is worse than that: It subsidizes the woman using a man’s body for 18-21 years without his consent.
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When either sex suppresses the expression of feelings, it’s almost always b/c they don’t feel there is a safe environment to express them.
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If we believe that it is predominantly men who batter women, it is hard to see why women also need to change: We will continue saying, 'Just change the men. They’re the batterers.'
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Women's liberation and the male midlife crisis were the same search-for personal fulfillment, common values, mutual respect, love. But while women's liberation was thought of as promoting identity, the male midlife crisis was thought of as an identity crisis.
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Why did virtually every culture reward its men for enduring violence? So it would have a cadre of people available to protect it in war.
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If my parents had made love a tenth of a second earlier or later, I wouldn’t exist. What an enormous miracle, just being given life.
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The nature of men’s responsibilities distanced men from feelings, whereas the nature of women’s responsibilities encouraged the expression of feelings.
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The belief that men don’t need help is part of the problem.
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Our choice of partners is perhaps the clearest single statement of our choice of values. Therefore, when we blame our partner for anything, we should really be confronting ourselves. Not as in 'Yes, I made a bad choice,' but as in 'How does this choice reflect my values?'
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Students coming from father-present families score higher in math and science even when they come from weaker schools.
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When divorces meant marriage no longer provided security for a lifetime, women adjusted by focusing on careers as empowerment. But when the sacrifice of a career met the sacrifices in a career, the fantasy of a career became the reality of trade-offs. Women developed career ambivalence.
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How can I call security a woman's primary fantasy if I am saying it is also her primary need? Because while her primary need is the security of a home and a family circle, her primary fantasy is that someone else will earn enough to pay for them. Hence the focus of 2 billion women on the latest royal wedding.
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Men often become nonviolent in societies that (1) have adequate amounts of food, (2) have adequate amounts of water, and (3) perceive themselves as isolated from attack. For example, the Tahitian men, the Minoan men on Crete, and the Central Malaysian Semai were nonviolent during the period in their history when all three of these conditions prevailed.
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When I eat a meal, I think of all the people whose labor has contributed to my nourishment, and that thought nourishes my appreciation. I hope it nourishes you too.
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Unemployment to a man is the psychological equivalent of rape to a woman.
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Men for whom divorce means walking out of their children’s lives except when they choose to see the children are the male equivalent of the adolescent feminists: men who want options without obligations. Morally, they have no right to walk out. A law that allows that is similarly immoral. 'Primary Parent' laws are just such laws.