Warren Farrell Quotes
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Implicit in the Hollywood formula of mom-by-option and dad-by-default is mom never at fault...to a fault.
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From evening soaps to preteen romances, the message is that inner values are for losers.
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Why did virtually every culture reward its men for enduring violence? So it would have a cadre of people available to protect it in war.
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When we add the devaluation of male values to the demonizing of male sexuality, many boys feel like a pervert before they know who they are.
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Social policy that reunites father and child must always confront itself with the question, 'Are we paying dads to stay, or to go away?' If a single mother receives more money when the father isn’t around than when he is around, there will be fewer fathers around. The government will become her substitute husband.
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I could be a much better role model by sharing more openly with him my shadow side, my faults, my mistakes, asking him to be my teacher rather than being his.
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If my parents had made love a tenth of a second earlier or later, I wouldn’t exist. What an enormous miracle, just being given life.
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Unemployment to a man is the psychological equivalent of rape to a woman.
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When either sex suppresses the expression of feelings, it’s almost always b/c they don’t feel there is a safe environment to express them.
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A woman has no right to a unilateral choice that affects the rest of a man’s life any more than a man would have the right to a unilateral choice that affects the rest of a woman’s life.
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Schools currently excel in encouraging children to express opinions, but are deficient in encouraging children to say, for example, 'Oh, that’s different from my perspective – tell me more.'
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We cannot think of dads as being nurturing if we think of men as being self-serving.
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Framework, (...)
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If a man ignoring a woman’s verbal 'no' is committing date rape, then a woman who says 'no' with her verbal language but 'yes' with her body language is committing date fraud. And a woman who continues to be sexual even after she says 'no' is committing date lying.
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Men often become nonviolent in societies that (1) have adequate amounts of food, (2) have adequate amounts of water, and (3) perceive themselves as isolated from attack. For example, the Tahitian men, the Minoan men on Crete, and the Central Malaysian Semai were nonviolent during the period in their history when all three of these conditions prevailed.
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Our children are better served by speaking not of 'visitation' versus 'custody,' but of 'parent time.'
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One danger of a man succeeding is that it teaches his wife and daughter not to worry about success.
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Tone of voice is more crucial than words.
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The people considered the most in need of protection were women and children. The sex considered most disposable was men – or males....
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Women's liberation and the male midlife crisis were the same search-for personal fulfillment, common values, mutual respect, love. But while women's liberation was thought of as promoting identity, the male midlife crisis was thought of as an identity crisis.
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Creating fatherhood means creating a major psychological shift. Both sexes find it's difficult to fully share the psychological responsibility for the other sex's traditional role - especially when the other sex is around. – page 90.
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If power means having control over one's own life, then perhaps there is no better ranking of the impact of sex roles and racism on power over our own lives than life expectancy.
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Humans tend to start the process of change by acknowledging themselves-thus blacks asserted black pride and black is beautiful; women declared I am woman, I am strong ; men are saying I am man, I am okay. After a quarter of a century of male bashing, that’s not a bad start.
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In brief, part of the need for funding comes from the need to create balance to a third of a century of funding an 'attitude' toward men. And part comes from the need to study how both sexes can make a transition from those rigid roles to more flexible roads with a clear enough road map to not go over too many cliffs along the way...