Erik Erikson Quotes
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Adolescents need freedom to choose, but not so much freedom that they cannot, in fact, make a choice.
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Life doesn't make any sense without interdependence. We need each other, and the sooner we learn that, the better for us all.
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There is in every child at every stage a new miracle of vigorous unfolding.
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In the social jungle of human existence, there is no feeling of being alive without a sense of identity.
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The sense of identity provides the ability to experience one's self as something that has continuity and sameness, and to act accordingly.
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Hope is both the earliest and the most indispensable virtue inherent in the state of being alive. Others have called this deepest quality confidence, and I have referred to trust as the earliest positive psychosocial attitude, but if life is to be sustained hope must remain, even where confidence is wounded, trust impaired.
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Play is the most natural method of self-healing that childhood affords.
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The playing adult steps sideward into another reality; the playing child advances forward to new stages of mastery.
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If life is to be sustained, hope must remain.
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Healthy children will not fear life if their elders have integrity enough not to fear death.
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Babies control and bring up their families as much as they are controlled by them; in fact ... the family brings up baby by being brought up by him.
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Children cannot be fooled by empty praise and condescending encouragement. They may have to accept artificial bolstering of their self-esteem in lieu of something better, but what I call their accruing ego identity gains real strength only from wholehearted and consistent recognition of real accomplishment, that is, achievement that has meaning in their culture.
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Someday, maybe, there will exist a well-informed, well considered and yet fervent public conviction that the most deadly of all possible sins is the mutilation of a child’s spirit; for such mutilation undercuts the life principle of trust, without which every human act, may it feel ever so good and seem ever so right is prone to perversion by destructive forms of conscientiousness.
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The richest and fullest lives attempt to achieve an inner balance between three realms: work, love and play.
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The fact that human conscience remains partially infantile throughout life is the core of human tragedy.
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If there is any responsibility in the cycle of life it must be that one generation owes to the next that strength by which it can come to face ultimate concerns in its own way.
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These same experiences make of the sequence of life cycles a generational cycle, irrevocably binding each generation to those that gave it life and to those for whose life it is responsible. Thus, reconciling lifelong generativity and stagnation involves the elder in a review of his or her own years of active responsibility for nurturing the next generations, and also in an integration of earlier-life experiences of caring and of self-concern in relation to previous generations.
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Children love and want to be loved and they very much prefer the joy of accomplishment to the triumph of hateful failure. Do not mistake a child for his symptom.
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When we looked at the life cycle in our 40s, we looked to old people for wisdom. At 80, though, we look at other 80-year-olds to see who got wise and who not. Lots of old people don't get wise, but you don't get wise unless you age.
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Personality, too, is destiny.
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You've got to learn to accept the law of life, and face the fact that we disintegrate slowly.
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The strengths a young person finds in adults at this time-their willingness to let him experiment, their eagerness to confirm him at his best, their consistency in correcting his excesses, and the guidance they give him-will codetermine whether or not he eventually makes order out of necessary inner confusion and applies himself to the correction of disordered conditions. He needs freedom to choose, but not so much freedom that he cannot, in fact, make a choice.
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Do not mistake a child for his symptom.
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It's a long haul bringing up our children to be good; you have to keep doing that — bring them up — and that means bringing things up with them: Asking, telling, sounding them out, sounding off yourself — finding, through experience, your own words, your own way of putting them together. You have to learn where you stand, and make sure your kids learn [where you stand], understand why, and soon, you hope, they'll be standing there beside you, with you.