Bessel van der Kolk Quotes
In later years I encountered a similar phenomenon in victims of child abuse: Most of them suffer from agonizing shame about the actions they took to survive and maintain a connection with the person who abused them. This was particularly true if the abuser was someone close to the child, someone the child depended on, as is so often the case. The result can be confusion about whether one was a victim or a willing participant, which in turn leads to bewilderment about the difference between love and terror; pain and pleasure. We will return to this dilemma throughout this book.
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When we direct our thoughts properly, we can control our emotions.
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I didn't want to be a number. I didn't want to be an object.
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There's a need to keep the history of an artform going, parallel with the new work that's being done.
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I think comics are really part of The Zeitgeist. They reflect back to us the issues that we're concerned about in the time they are written.
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Film and television are so piecemeal. You do one scene, and then you put it to bed, and then you do a scene that comes before. In a play, you have to go from beginning to end every night, and that's harder, but also more fulfilling in a way.
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People review my comic books. People review every article I write - 'The Atlantic' even publishes them. A great deal of the critique of 'Between the World and Me' was from a feminist perspective. bell hooks pushed back, among others. Some of that has value. Some of it does not. I try my best to separate the wheat from the chaff.
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I like people that are not frightened to say what they think.
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All human beings are also dream beings. Dreaming ties all mankind together.
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Most important thought, if you love someone, tell him or her, for you never know what tomorrow may have in store.
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Commercials capture your attention, that's all.
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I've sung background for a couple of bands.
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At the end of the day, a 34B doesn't give you self-esteem.
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What goes on between the actor and director is sacred.
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The foreign policy of the Democrats is bad for Europe and deadly for Hungary. In contrast, the foreign policy of the Republicans and proclaimed by presidential candidate Trump is good for Europe and means life for Hungary.
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People haven't always been there for me, but music always has.
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Painting puts me into an alpha state. It's a private event. I make all the decisions in the process and never have to deal with the outside world.
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You make a movie with some people, you become friends over the process of making this movie and then... you go your own way.
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Take responsibility. Step up and step in. Because at the end of the day, folks, we are our behaviors.
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According to the perverse aesthetics of artistic guilty pleasure, certain books and movies are so bad - so crudely conceived, despicably motivated and atrociously executed - that they're actually rather good.
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Lives have been altered in fundamental ways, and later, after they acquire a more complete understanding of what goals are actually attainable, many are left facing a lot of pain and frustration. And yet, there's no culture of complaint.
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Verdiana was the child of poor though well-born parents, and her knowledge of the sufferings of the poor from her own experience in early years made her ever full of pity for those in need.
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Nature shows that with the growth of intelligence comes increased capacity for pain, and it is only with the highest degree of intelligence that suffering reaches its supreme point.
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There were seven men, but just one language. They also moved as one and ate one meal a day and slept in the same bed and knew the same women with whom they'd made the same child. They worked for the same firm as the father. They were the future.
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In later years I encountered a similar phenomenon in victims of child abuse: Most of them suffer from agonizing shame about the actions they took to survive and maintain a connection with the person who abused them. This was particularly true if the abuser was someone close to the child, someone the child depended on, as is so often the case. The result can be confusion about whether one was a victim or a willing participant, which in turn leads to bewilderment about the difference between love and terror; pain and pleasure. We will return to this dilemma throughout this book.
