Albert Ellis Quotes
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We teach people that they upset themselves. We can't change the past, so we change how people are thinking, feeling and behaving today.
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If I had been a member of the academic establishment, I could have done other experiments.
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Rational beliefs bring us closer to getting good results in the real world.
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I think the future of psychotherapy and psychology is in the school system. We need to teach every child how to rarely seriously disturb himself or herself and how to overcome disturbance when it occurs.
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Freud had a gene for inefficiency, and I think I have a gene for efficiency.
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There are three musts that hold us back: I must do well. You must treat me well. And the world must be easy.
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In the old days we used to get more referrals, because people had insurance that paid for therapy. Now they belong to HMOs, and we can only be affiliated with a few HMOs.
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The art of love is largely the art of persistence.
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There's no evidence whatsoever that men are more rational than women. Both sexes seem to be equally irrational.
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People have motives and thoughts of which they are unaware.
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For that again, is what all manner of religion essentially is: childish dependency.
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Self-esteem is the greatest sickness known to man or woman because it's conditional.
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I thought foolishly that Freudian psychoanalysis was deeper and more intensive than other, more directive forms of therapy, so I was trained in it and practiced it.
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I wrote several articles criticizing psychoanalysis, but the analysts weren't listening to my objections. So I finally quit after practicing it for six years.
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I think it's unfair, but they have the right as fallible, screwed-up humans to be unfair; that's the human condition.
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If something is irrational, that means it won't work. It's usually unrealistic.
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The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own. You do not blame them on your mother, the ecology, or the president. You realize that you control your own destiny.
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You largely constructed your depression. It wasn't given to you. Therefore, you can deconstruct it.
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I had a great many sex and love cases where people were absolutely devastated when somebody with whom they were compulsively in love didn't love them back. They were killing themselves with anxiety and depression.
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As a result of my philosophy, I wasn't even upset about Hitler. I was willing to go to war to knock him off, but I didn't hate him. I hated what he was doing.
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Most people would have given up when faced with all the criticism I've received over the years.
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I had used eclectic therapy and behavior therapy on myself at the age of 19 to get over my fear of public speaking and of approaching young women in public.
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By not caring too much about what people think, I'm able to think for myself and propagate ideas which are very often unpopular. And I succeed.
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People could rationally decide that prolonged relationships take up too much time and effort and that they'd much rather do other kinds of things. But most people are afraid of rejection.