Bessel van der Kolk Quotes
In the chapters on the biology of trauma we saw how trauma and abandonment disconnect people from their body as a source of pleasure and comfort, or even as a part of themselves that needs care and nurturance. When we cannot rely on our body to signal safety or warning and instead feel chronically overwhelmed by physical stirrings, we lose the capacity to feel at home in our own skin and, by extension, in the world. As long as their map of the world is based on trauma, abuse, and neglect, people are likely to seek shortcuts to oblivion. Anticipating rejection, ridicule, and deprivation, they are reluctant to try out new options, certain that these will lead to failure. This lack of experimentation traps people in a matrix of fear, isolation, and scarcity where it is impossible to welcome the very experiences that might change their basic worldview.
Quotes to Explore
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More modern poetry is written than read.
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When companies get big, they slow down. They're not as exciting. If you want to get something done, it takes a lot of time and a lot of meetings.
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My work was entirely nonfiction.
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I'm from New York, so I'm not a big driver.
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There never was a time when, in my opinion, some way could not be found to prevent the drawing of the sword.
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Blogging and the Internet allow us to engage in a lot more real time conversations as opposed to a one-way dump of information or a message.
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I was deposed by a coup d'etat, by friends that I trusted and aided by the American Government.
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We didn't rehearse or play the songs to death before we recorded them, and that let us catch a freshness and energy level we've never really felt while making records.
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I don't even like to talk Lions too much just because the way our relationship ended.
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My bag always weighs a ton. I carry my whole bathroom with me. You never know what's going to happen in a day!
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The personal things should be left out of platforms at conventions. You can argue yourself blue in the face, and you're not going to change each other's minds. It's a waste of your time and my time.
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To go back, the mistake that Universal Studios made with 'Dawn of the Dead' was that they didn't have enough money or cared enough to make a soundtrack.
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I don't know how to cook and there's so much work involved you have to buy the groceries and prepare them. I like it when people cook for me, or I'll just order some take-out.
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I'd rather be voted 'the sexiest man in Denmark' than 'the ugliest man in Denmark'.
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Acquaintances we meet, enjoy, and can easily leave behind; but friendship grows deep roots.
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I was an all-sport athlete growing up. My dad, I think, hoped I would go to college on a scholarship.
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I try to get over to Iraq and Afghanistan as much as I can.
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One of my biggest flaws is I don't take advice.
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I was never like, 'Oh, I really want to play Cinderella.' That's not necessarily always been the dream. But it's super fun to play a princess.
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I don't categorize food as bad or a guilty pleasure.
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It's always a shock to me when I get recognized.
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When a friend is in trouble, don't annoy him by asking if there is anything you can do. Think up something appropriate and do it.
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In the chapters on the biology of trauma we saw how trauma and abandonment disconnect people from their body as a source of pleasure and comfort, or even as a part of themselves that needs care and nurturance. When we cannot rely on our body to signal safety or warning and instead feel chronically overwhelmed by physical stirrings, we lose the capacity to feel at home in our own skin and, by extension, in the world. As long as their map of the world is based on trauma, abuse, and neglect, people are likely to seek shortcuts to oblivion. Anticipating rejection, ridicule, and deprivation, they are reluctant to try out new options, certain that these will lead to failure. This lack of experimentation traps people in a matrix of fear, isolation, and scarcity where it is impossible to welcome the very experiences that might change their basic worldview.
