Bessel van der Kolk Quotes
Securely attached kids learn the difference between situations they can control and situations where they need help. They learn that they can play an active role when faced with difficult situations. In contrast, children with histories of abuse and neglect learn that their terror, pleading, and crying do not register with their caregiver. Nothing they can do or say stops the beating or brings attention and help. In effect they’re being conditioned to give up when they face challenges later in life.
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I've always really been interested in the Pygmalion myth and both what it has to say about creativity and what it has to say about relationships between men and women.
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Why would Senator Allen want to oppose saving money for the state? It's simply another example of Republicans fighting the governor tooth and nail against any measure where she might be able to turn the state's budget around.
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I believe it is an important project, it makes the cost of doing business lower and they will make us more competitive at the same time, it will also provide some satisfaction to the people who demand services for them of the quality they want and also quickly.
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LeBron James can get a shot off under any and all circumstances and he makes them.
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Racism is everywhere - the older generations in Malaysia still say things like, 'She's darker-skinned; maybe don't marry her,' and it's very judgmental. A lot of girls do try to get fairness cream to lighten their skin, and I'm against all of that.
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O Lord, help me to be pure, but not yet.
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I grew up as a Southern Baptist with strict adherence to the Bible, which I read as a youngster.
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With women, there's a basic female instinct of caring deeply about the way they look; women stars have a narcissist complex.
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I am blessed to receive a word from God every day in receiving the scriptures and reading the scriptures. And God speaks through the Bible.
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I try to cook dinner, but it's difficult when I'm working.
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Now, the typical way you make good things happen in Washington is you find a bunch of wealthy companies who agree with you.
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It's funny. All you have to do is say something nobody understands and they'll do practically anything you want them to.
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I do movies I would go to see.
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Hearing the blues changed my life.
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A person who is shallow aspires to depth; one who is ugly aspires to beauty; one who is narrow aspires to breadth; one who is poor aspires to wealth; one who is humble aspires to esteem. Whatever one lacks in oneself he must seek outside.
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Long hours of labour seem to be the secret of the rational and healthful processes, which are to raise the condition of the labourer by an improvement of his mental and moral powers and to make a rational consumer out of him.
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Society is so quick to encourage women to see each other as competition, but I think it's important we celebrate and embrace the pieces of our identity we share with others.
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I came to filmmaking as an actor looking for great characters and great opportunities, both of which are kind of hard to come by. It turns out I really love the process. And, it's exciting to be able to take my career by the reigns and make things happen for myself. Hopefully, in doing so, more opportunities will become available to me.
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Religion often is misused for purely power-political goals, including war.
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He did not dare to console her, knowing that it would have been like consoling a tiger run thru by a spear.
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Get to know your kids' minds and how they think.
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Even as a kid, I was a businessman. I figured out that if you plucked all the berries off my neighbor's tree and smashed them up, they made a Nickelodeon Gak-type consistency. I sold them to all the neighborhood kids and made stacks of quarters. Of course, the berries were poisonous, and I got in all types of trouble.
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Securely attached kids learn the difference between situations they can control and situations where they need help. They learn that they can play an active role when faced with difficult situations. In contrast, children with histories of abuse and neglect learn that their terror, pleading, and crying do not register with their caregiver. Nothing they can do or say stops the beating or brings attention and help. In effect they’re being conditioned to give up when they face challenges later in life.
